....which is his choice as an adult.
That's the thing with parents helping out their children. They are not children, but adults, who make their own choices with their own consequences.
But it is dam hard not to help sometimes.
Lucky you got the 10K out.
Similar story with my brother.
His wife and him have been in Darwin and then the UK for 5 odd years to supposedly make more money and save for a house. They travelled all over Europe and the top end of Oz having the time of their lives.
Come back home and...