About divorce

[random]

I know quite a few of divorced couples, and they get on like BFF's. Place the kids wellbeing ahead of their own, and genuinely appreciate they are two great individuals who simply grew apart.

I cannot even fathom the sort of hate that must have sparked up in the relationships (or lack of) you speak of.

Neither can l and that was so nice to hear. Ours was like that too but unfortunately , l mostly hear horror stories from most others so this , now this was nice to read.

 

[random]

I didn't realise that women hated prostitutes.

I've always said that a women should have the right.
It's their body, and they are providing a service.
They can give it away, but not charge for it...sounds like a stupid rule.

It's the pimps that I have the problem with.
If the prostitute wants to hire a boduy guard, that is different, but she is always in charge.

But they would , hell if she's smart enough and not of her face 24/7 , she could easily set up her own show , who would stop her.
Looks to me like they most of them need their pimps .

 

[random]

Haha hey , this reminded me. Once l went for this p/t driving job and guess what it turned out to be.
Driving a pro around to all her jobs and to be there as back up if anything hit the fan.
My ex said at the time , who wasn't my ex then . hey you should take it , you'd love that job.
The jokes we had going round the house about that one for about a yr after , bloody funny.

 

[lizzie]

Dex and Mr Fab

As a female - an intelligent, non-vindictive, content in my marriage female - I ask on behalf of all the women on this forum to please keep your anti-woman rants to the "anti-woman rant" websites.

This is a property forum where serious subjects are discussed in a (usually) serious manner - but so many topics seem to be being derailed by the general sweeping "all women are evil" attitude of you two.

Not all women are evil - the majority are decent humans that treat others with dignity and respect - just like not all men are *******s - the majority are decent humans that treat others with dignity and respect.

As I pointed out in my previous post - a relative lost everyone after 30 years of marriage due to her ex husband - but that did not mean I (or she) tarred every man with the same brush.

I am yet to see any female on this forum head off in an anti-male rant - even myself who has an ex that hid all our money in a convoluted paper trail before running off with another woman - so as a goodly percentage of the population, I am asking that you return the same decency and refrain.

There is truth in the old sayings "you reap what you sow" - "seek and you shall find" - and "be careful what you wish for".

xx

 

[mumbai]

Well said lizzie.
And I second this STRONGLY.. please stop this incessant ranting. I have been ignoring a lot of posts, but this is just getting worse. I understand you are posting in the Coffee Lounge section and there are no regulation against it. But this is a property forum for God sake. Take your ranting elsewhere. PLEASE.

 

[Mr. Fabulous]

As a female - an intelligent, non-vindictive, content in my marriage female - I ask on behalf of all the women on this forum to please keep your anti-woman rants to the "anti-woman rant" websites.

What I post is not what you describe above. Your perception may be so, however as I have stated several times now, what I post is factual, with plenty of evidence to back it up. I make sure to keep everything above board, impersonal and sticking to the facts. If the mod's thought I was breaking the forum rules, they would pull me up on it. As can be seen from yours and others' posts, I have to be extraordinarily careful to make sure I stay on a very thin line, as there are plenty of people on here who are ready to jump on me, the second I slip up. Heck, I don't even need to slip up, you and a handful of other posters are more than happy to label me everything under the sun, simply for posting about issues you would prefer not be made public.

I wonder what your reaction would be if I said to you 'As a male - an intelligent, non-vindictive, content in my marriage male - I ask on behalf of all the men on this forum to please keep your anti-male rants to the "anti-male rant" websites.' in relation to you discussing male on female domestic violence or other issues that you personally consider important to address and discuss.

I personally find it quite disappointing that you, as a human being, consider the discussion of female on male domestic violence to be 'anti-female ranting' (your words). I mean, it's not surprising in the slightest, but it also goes to show just how far we have to go before our society starts to take female perpetrators of violent crimes seriously.

 

[property_girl]

... what I post is factual, with plenty of evidence to back it up. I make sure to keep everything above board, impersonal and sticking to the facts.

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MrFab gathers his 'factual evidence' from the manosphere--a hideous place. No posts even alluding to the manosphere should be allowed. MrFab has used SS as a platform for his woman-hating for years.

MrFab does not get personal; he simply attacks a whole gender.

I have yet to hear one woman on this forum discuss domestic violence. If MrFab has has an axe to grind in that regard, discuss it on another website--not on a property investment website.

 

[lizzie]

What I post is not what you describe above. Your perception may be so, however as I have stated several times now, what I post is factual, with plenty of evidence to back it up.

With links to fact-questionable female-belittling (or even bashing) sites ... with quotes taken from woman-hating websites ... with cheerleading and backslapping those on here who do make anti-woman rants ... means that, even if you don't directly write something personal anti-woman-in-general, you are encouraging and congratulating those who do and therefore get lumped in with them.

It think you'll find it's call "passive aggressive" - or "backhanding" - take your pick.

 

[property_girl]

because the games they play are less effective, since all a guy has to do is to go to a prositute where the guy can get most of what he wants, with no headaches, no games, no lying, no blackmail,

in fact, there are times im on a first dinner date with a woman (mind you I was the one who was asked out), and i sit and think to myself, I should have just hired an escort for dinner, judging the amount of gossiping/arrogance/dumb conversation/up herselffness I have to listen to,

And now replace every 'they' or 'woman' with 'Jew' or 'Black' eg:

The games Jews play are less effective, since all a guy has to do is to go to a prositute ... with no headaches, no games, no lying, no blackmail (from the Jew),

In fact, there are times im on a first dinner date with a Jew ... and i sit and think to myself, I should have just hired an escort for dinner, judging the amount of gossiping/arrogance/dumb conversation/up herselffness I have to listen to (from the Jew).

Do you get it now TMNT?

 

[beachgurl]

Maybe the mods should set up a separate Men Only section so this stuff can be completely ignored by the majority on the forum and enjoyed by those passionate about it. Nothing wrong with people having an opinion on something but make it clear that it's an anti-female thread and we can keep away.

Actually more simply perhaps just change the topic of this thread to something similar.

 

[Fifth]

With links to fact-questionable female-belittling (or even bashing) sites ... with quotes taken from woman-hating websites ... with cheerleading and backslapping those on here who do make anti-woman rants ... means that, even if you don't directly write something personal anti-woman-in-general, you are encouraging and congratulating those who do and therefore get lumped in with them.

It think you'll find it's call "passive aggressive" - or "backhanding" - take your pick.

Add to that some seemingly trivial or even benign things which, when put together, become rather insufferable, especially after so many years of this:

- posting memes making fun of women (and not doing so for men)
- making 'Men' a proper noun and not doing so for women implying male superiority
- calling any man who disagrees a white knight, emasculated, a manlette or some condescending wrong colour pill insult
- finding any excuse to criticise women's behaviour but never criticising mens' behaviour unless, of course, they are 'manlettes'
- talking about mens' talents and achievements but never doing for women
- constantly analysing a woman's 'value' based purely upon her sexual 'value'
- setting impossible and hypocritical standards for women i.e. if she takes the lead in household finances she is a emasculating and not feminine but if she lets him take care of finances she is just using him as an ATM machine... if she doesn't take pride in her appearance she has low worth and is not feminine but if she takes care of her appearance she is high maintenance and will spend all your money on shoes
- telling women what they *really* want (because presumably women are too dumb to know for themselves)
- telling men that marriage is for saps and then ridiculing him if he dares to be happily married
- derailing threads whenever there is an opportunity to take a swipe at women

I could go on forever...

 

[random]

Nahh , doesn't work. Every time anyone sets up a male sub forum in any forum it gets invaded by women .
And have a guess what their main subject is in anything they ask the guys in them , over and over and over .

 

[Sim]

Maybe the mods should set up a separate Men Only section so this stuff can be completely ignored by the majority on the forum and enjoyed by those passionate about it. Nothing wrong with people having an opinion on something but make it clear that it's an anti-female thread and we can keep away.

Actually more simply perhaps just change the topic of this thread to something similar.

It is a problem when genuine non-coffee-lounge threads are derailed by anyone into an anti-men/anti-women/anti-anything rant-fest.

These recent threads in the coffee lounge are actually split from such threads and the fact that they were derailed is a big problem - it prevents reasonable discussion about the original topic.

I don't think we need a "Mens Only" section - I don't believe that segregation is the answer. We live in a world populated by both men and women (and others), so we all just need to learn to get along - even if some of you don't like each other.

You aren't obliged to read every thread. If there is a thread you don't like - just ignore it. Similarly, if there is a poster whose views you don't like - use the ignore feature to actively ignore them. Problem solved.

While I'm generally prepared to allow people to discuss most topics that are unrelated to property investing in the coffee lounge, it is not acceptable for those discussions to spill over into the rest of the forum.

There are also some topics which, by their very nature, are bound to cause problems - and such threads will likely wind up closed or deleted if they cross over into trouble-making territory.

While some people are able to post in a reasoned manner without resorting to personal attacks - there are some members who don't have such control and let their emotions get the better of them, and others who simply lack the empathy required to avoid posting hurtful comments.

I would also like to remind our members that trolling (posting with the intent of causing a reaction rather than for adding value to the discussion) is not permitted on the site, and repeat offenders will find themselves banned.

 

[Sim]

... and with that, I don't think there's any more value to be had here either - it has reverted to the same old arguments once more. Thread closed.