Hi!
I've been friends (kinda) with this bloke for about 8 years, Lets call him Bob, and we used to hang out together when we were single and just get together and have a few drinks, it was that type of relationship. Just two knockabouts having a laugh.
That was a good 4-years ago when it came to an end and we stopped hanging out late at night, it's been more we see each other for an hour every 1 or 2 months because I'm a totally different person and now happily married.
this mate was my best man at our wedding by the way, even though we don't see much of each other these days.
This guy is about to get married and I'm due to be best man, but I'm not really happy for him because he has problems and I don't believe this marriage is built upon anything particularly strong whatsoever. Here's why..
Last night's Bucks party
I've just woken up with that sickening feeling, but not caused by alcahol.
I did have about 6-7 beers but over the course of a good 6 hour period so I was a little bit toasted but otherwise fine. We went boating at 3pm with the entire party of 6, it was good for a laugh and to get to know each other a bit, I enjoyed the first hour, but then a couple of peoples angry sort of nature begun to shine and then not so much. You know that yobboish sort of 'tough nut' nature? I see no reason to even pretend you're tough let alone act like you are. It shows you are not happy or comfortable in your own skin or life.
Anyhow, we get to the Bucks party which was at my best man's house, here's where the trouble really starts. Suddenly my best man and his tough not friend, who is by the way about 50 years old and a father type figure to him are absolutely *****faced, I don't exactly know how this happened so fast but I heard that they had a full glass of Jameson on the rocks to get started. My mate was in his wife-to-be's lingerie and dresses acting stupid for a while, no-one had anywhere to sit and the house was an absolute mess and the 6 people were scattered around the house either chatting to just one person, or even sitting by themselves. 9pm comes around and there is a big fight around back. I go to look and it's Bob's brother screaming at the top of his lungs saying 'I'm sick of you being like this, you need help' and so on. Then, the father type figure (who is also total mess) walks toward Bob's brother to try and calm him but he pushes this guy with an almighty force and lands him on the floor about two metres away. It was on from then. Bob comes running over and jumps on his brother. I try to break them up and succeed. Then Bob and the father figure type guy start fighting!! I don't know why this father figure guy started fighting with Bob but he did and I said calmly to him 'Hey, let him go' he just stared at me and I said it again 'let, him, go' He then says, Bob, if you don't tell him to go away I'm gonna' smash him' And then Bob (wasn't even aware I was 2 feet away from him) says 'f*%k him man, you're like a father figure to me' (Thats why I'm referring to him as 'Father figure guy, lol) I know that Bob said this in a manner only to calm his fiend down, but it still peeved me off and I said, I've had enough, see ya' and went home. There was a car with a guy who works with him out front and he'd had enough too so I got a ride home.
Now, I do not want to have to put up with any more of this abuse, I do not want to have to be best man. I'm thinking of just saying to him, man, you need help and I'm not prepared to bring my wife to your wedding when there's a good chance of history repeating itself,
The way he treated me last night is not the way friends treat each other.
What would you do?
I've been friends (kinda) with this bloke for about 8 years, Lets call him Bob, and we used to hang out together when we were single and just get together and have a few drinks, it was that type of relationship. Just two knockabouts having a laugh.
That was a good 4-years ago when it came to an end and we stopped hanging out late at night, it's been more we see each other for an hour every 1 or 2 months because I'm a totally different person and now happily married.
this mate was my best man at our wedding by the way, even though we don't see much of each other these days.
This guy is about to get married and I'm due to be best man, but I'm not really happy for him because he has problems and I don't believe this marriage is built upon anything particularly strong whatsoever. Here's why..
Last night's Bucks party
I've just woken up with that sickening feeling, but not caused by alcahol.
I did have about 6-7 beers but over the course of a good 6 hour period so I was a little bit toasted but otherwise fine. We went boating at 3pm with the entire party of 6, it was good for a laugh and to get to know each other a bit, I enjoyed the first hour, but then a couple of peoples angry sort of nature begun to shine and then not so much. You know that yobboish sort of 'tough nut' nature? I see no reason to even pretend you're tough let alone act like you are. It shows you are not happy or comfortable in your own skin or life.
Anyhow, we get to the Bucks party which was at my best man's house, here's where the trouble really starts. Suddenly my best man and his tough not friend, who is by the way about 50 years old and a father type figure to him are absolutely *****faced, I don't exactly know how this happened so fast but I heard that they had a full glass of Jameson on the rocks to get started. My mate was in his wife-to-be's lingerie and dresses acting stupid for a while, no-one had anywhere to sit and the house was an absolute mess and the 6 people were scattered around the house either chatting to just one person, or even sitting by themselves. 9pm comes around and there is a big fight around back. I go to look and it's Bob's brother screaming at the top of his lungs saying 'I'm sick of you being like this, you need help' and so on. Then, the father type figure (who is also total mess) walks toward Bob's brother to try and calm him but he pushes this guy with an almighty force and lands him on the floor about two metres away. It was on from then. Bob comes running over and jumps on his brother. I try to break them up and succeed. Then Bob and the father figure type guy start fighting!! I don't know why this father figure guy started fighting with Bob but he did and I said calmly to him 'Hey, let him go' he just stared at me and I said it again 'let, him, go' He then says, Bob, if you don't tell him to go away I'm gonna' smash him' And then Bob (wasn't even aware I was 2 feet away from him) says 'f*%k him man, you're like a father figure to me' (Thats why I'm referring to him as 'Father figure guy, lol) I know that Bob said this in a manner only to calm his fiend down, but it still peeved me off and I said, I've had enough, see ya' and went home. There was a car with a guy who works with him out front and he'd had enough too so I got a ride home.
Now, I do not want to have to put up with any more of this abuse, I do not want to have to be best man. I'm thinking of just saying to him, man, you need help and I'm not prepared to bring my wife to your wedding when there's a good chance of history repeating itself,
The way he treated me last night is not the way friends treat each other.
What would you do?