Hi Lily House,
Very interested in your saving system for your 5 yr old. i.e. getting 50c for completing a number of tasks.
Can I ask you at what age you started and how did you associate the tasks with the reward?
I've got a 3 1/2 year old and want him started ASAP. Any tips?
Hi IanF,
We started our daughter on the rewards chart about a year ago when she was aged 4 /2. I think it would depend on the child. She only has between 2-4 'tasks' at any one time, depending on what they are and how much of a stretch it takes for her to achieve them. I try and pick one that's relatively easy for her to achieve - so that she can tick it off easily and be motivated to complete the other things.
We bought a specially designed board, that lists the days of the weeks, and comes with stickers, so its fun for her. You can do rewards by the day, or say 10 stickers in a week gives you .....(whatever special treat/reward).
The trick is to get your child to feel they are choosing the goals and rewards. For example, when my daughter went through a stage of being fussy over eating fruit, we sat down and discussed the importance to her health, and how many bits of fruit would be a 'good' amount to eat each day. I suggested higher than I really wanted her to eat and we worked down to 2 peices a day - which is what I wanted her to eat, but she felt like she decided it herself.
After a while it became a habit - and this is no longer on her chart, but just a normal part of her behaviour.
You can use it for any behaviour you want to encourage. We've had (besides the fruit thing) - tidying up her toys, not yelling, dry pants when her toileting started to slacken off etc. Usually 2 or three things at a time, maximum of four.
Also - the reward is very important to the child's motivation. When we first started the chart - she desperately wanted a bed for her barbie dolls. We went to the toy shop and took a photo of one (so she could see her goal everyday) and worked out how much $ she needed to save. She really wanted that bed so was very motivated. After a while though, she just loves saving the money (we ended up buying a doll bed through the internet so she had the added thrill of it arriving in the mail - though it is also exciting for a small child to hand over the money at a shop). She was so proud of that bed. Showed it to everyone, and that she bought it with her own money.
Another motivation for us as her parents was that we were realising that she didn't have a clue about money. We don't use actual cash that much - pay the bills over the phone, put the groceries etc on the credit card then jump on the PC to pay it at the end of the month. So this was a good opportunity for her to handle money. That is one of the reasons we decided on the 50cents a day reward (rather than, say, something like a trip to Maccas at the end of the week).
Also - to work you have to make a point of looking at it everyday. We do this just before she goes to bed. Saying that, there are times when neither she or I are wanting to use it - such as when on holiday. But even if we have a break for a while, we come back to it - especially if there's somehting particular we want to work on with her.
Anyway, hope all that rambling made sense. Good luck with your little boy, whatever you decide to do.
Lily