Hubby & I work shiftwork around each other so that one of us is always home for the kids. Would love the Grandparents to help out but they rarely offer. We only ask for help for the odd wedding attendance or special event. Personally I think that my kids and the Grandparents are missing out on some precious time together. Our kids are very polite & respectful according to their teachers, friends parents - we run a tight ship in the behaviour & manners department. Cant understand our parents general lack of interest really but I guess they have their own lives to a major extent. it frustrates Hubby more than me.