You can't .
Our daughters first boyfriend was everything parents could hope for ... But he had to move back to Melb and after a year of a long distance relationship they decided the distance was too far .
Enter number two ... Almost every one took an instant dislike to him . Eventually broke up but lasted for over two years . First family gathering ( fairly formal wedding ) he turned up with his shirt buttoned down to his waist and a shark tooth necklace trying to look like a shorter version of Antonio Banderos , with out the class
Only met his father once , never met mum , but heard lots of stories . Lived above their means , spoilt the kids rotten , have them new cars which they had no respect for , went on expensive holidays they couldn't afford and now getting close to retirement they're back renting .
He was just lazy and expected people to wait on him . Our daughter tutored him through his last couple of uni courses which he had failed . He talks the talk , but doesn't walk the walk .
Good learning experience for our daughter . She ' s more selective and has broken off with two guys since then because she couldn't see a long term future , one because he wasn't prepared to drive over the bridge to go to a restaurant she liked ...
Cliff