here are my experiences:
me: have 2 kids, was indifferent about them, still about them, if I had to relive my life, would I have them, id still be indifferent, my life has changed for both positive and negative since ive had them (but so does everything in life)
Wow! That is an honest answer. Still indifferent about them?
I've had times when I know that life would have been very different, much easier if we hadn't had kids. I wasn't desperately clucky, but we got married (I was 26) and kids were just the next thing on the "list" . I always wanted three (I was one of three) and hubby would have been happy to stop at two, but so glad we had the third.
I have friends who have and dont have kids through choice, none have said they regret any of their decisions, ive never met anyone who has said they regret having kids, because we live in a such a politically correct world, however, I know a few of these would be thinking that deep down, (my suspicions)
Through the horrible teenage head butting years, there were times when we would look at each other and say "what have we got ourselves into?" but I'd never change how things have gone. We have three great boys, not perfect, but then neither are we. They are good young men who don't always agree with us, don't always do things how we would do them, but who wants little clones?
what I find unfair is that those who have kids think having kids is some mile high club.