She seems to throw tempers and manipulate alot . Professionals have witnessed this. She manipulated him to put 'partner' on centrelink when they were never partners they were just trying to do their best in a shocking situation and see if they could make it work suddenly. She tried to coerce him to live far away interstate in a country town. She does alot of manipulating and we dont know if she has tried to live off others before and why in 35 years her debt isnt paid as she has been working in the past.
Professionals have said consistenly in the last months that she wont communicate calmly or respectfully, or cooperate with a budget, so they must live apart and from apart see if anything could improve, communication, or finances.
Noone is trying to milk a system, only see viable choices. Its not his debt, they were stupid but they werent partners. He has been advised that the numbers dont add up that even if she was easy to live with which she isnt, he cant cover all her costs and his own and aswell her debt. If he could cover costs and if she could communicate calmly, and work towards something its a different story. He has never run from supporting the baby and he would even support her and try to make it work like he has tried consistently for the last months, if he could and if she contributed something and communicated calmly without threats and manipulations and coercions and damaging his property if she doesnt get her way.
They are just trying to do their best and find their way in a bunch of shocks and questions and real limits. d. There are 2 tango ing and even if one seeks advice, seeks how to communicate calmly , seeks solutions it cant happen if 2 dont.
Something I have seen in many other similar stories I've since read is that even if others help the partner out of debt there is a pattern of these people to quickly get back into high debt. Its not something one can naively just take on, a person who swears shouts manipulates wont cooperate or communicate calmly, and wont work, contribute and pay debt, and cause maliscious damage and makes threats when they dont get their way.
Threads can start with one question but other related issues then arise.
Professionals have said consistenly in the last months that she wont communicate calmly or respectfully, or cooperate with a budget, so they must live apart and from apart see if anything could improve, communication, or finances.
Noone is trying to milk a system, only see viable choices. Its not his debt, they were stupid but they werent partners. He has been advised that the numbers dont add up that even if she was easy to live with which she isnt, he cant cover all her costs and his own and aswell her debt. If he could cover costs and if she could communicate calmly, and work towards something its a different story. He has never run from supporting the baby and he would even support her and try to make it work like he has tried consistently for the last months, if he could and if she contributed something and communicated calmly without threats and manipulations and coercions and damaging his property if she doesnt get her way.
They are just trying to do their best and find their way in a bunch of shocks and questions and real limits. d. There are 2 tango ing and even if one seeks advice, seeks how to communicate calmly , seeks solutions it cant happen if 2 dont.
Something I have seen in many other similar stories I've since read is that even if others help the partner out of debt there is a pattern of these people to quickly get back into high debt. Its not something one can naively just take on, a person who swears shouts manipulates wont cooperate or communicate calmly, and wont work, contribute and pay debt, and cause maliscious damage and makes threats when they dont get their way.
Threads can start with one question but other related issues then arise.
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