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I intervened and texted back to these other two kids last night that the whole conversation was being saved and taken to the Principal when school resumes, and to stop acting like 5 year olds. She won't cop it from our Principal, but my son and the other fool of a kid will.
What does the school have to do with it? Also, stop snitching.
What does the school have to do with it?
I know one of my kids primary schools becomes very involved with issues as they consider themselves responsible to stop cyber bullying to their students.
It ended in a meeting with her parents, and her parents then met with the Principal and her teacher over something her teacher said in front of the class about "certain kids" behaving like babies....the whole class knew who he was referring to...poor form; he should have dragged both of them aside and talked to them in private about their texting and general schoolground behavior...
My son and the girl are supposedly friends (he's never met this girl - lives 60 miles away), and somehow the three of them were in a conversation last night.
Some friend - if she can be so easily turned by a few lies from a complete stranger...she's no friend, and I pointed this out to my son.
What does the school have to do with it? Also, stop snitching.
The primary school is very pro-active on the subject of bullying and cyber-bullying.What does the school have to do with it? Also, stop snitching.
As was said in my last post; the school encourages active roles in the monitoring and stamping out of bullying.I have to agree with this. It happened on school holidays and has nothing whatsoever to do with the school. Schools are responsible for educating our children, not for moral policing our children outside of school hours. Parents should raise their own children.
You may think it stupid, but it is the reality of the world in which we now live.Schools feel responsible because parents do utterly stupid things like giving 11 year olds mobile phones and unsupervised internet access.
No, it was because the teacher openly addressed the class about the behaviour of a certain student in his class - basically; public ridicule and not necessary.Say what? This girl's parents actually had a meeting with the principal because the teacher indirectly called their daughter/your son a baby?
There's no preciousness about it a all. There are ways to handle how kids behave at school, and this would also apply to anyone in the workplace as an adult.Isn't this exactly the sort of preciousness you were referring to in this post of yours from just yesterday which bemoaned the kid glove handling of children and teachers' lack of disciplinary powers? Anyway, what a waste of the school's valuable resources.
This is true, which makes the whole scenario even more ridiculous to us adults. But, these are 11 year olds who are still learning, and need guidance using a tool that can help them and hurt them if they are inexperienced - and they are.Neither your son nor his friend have met this girl in person?
Who would know? The whole text program allows these kids to meet anyone from virtually anywhere - just like Twitbrain or Farcebook..How many degrees of separation until you find somebody who has actually met this girl?
They can facetime the person they are talking to.How do you know this 11 year old girl is not a 50 year old man?
Depends what you call intimate. I get to see his conversations on Kik etc, and it is mostly harmless chat.Is it really appropriate for an 11 year old to be having intimate conversations with someone they met online?
That is not really a solution to helping kids learn, or for us as parents to stay in touch with things they are interested in, or to keep a connection with them....In closing, throw the iPod under a bus.
The primary school is very pro-active on the subject of bullying and cyber-bullying.
It is their policy to report any to the teacher, and/or the Principal.
I think it's a great idea.
Often times, to try to sort it out with the kid's parents s to deal with older boneheads, or a parent who is oblivious to how bad their brat is and won't be cooperative, so it's futile to do that.
No; a visit to the Office for a chat with the Boss has a better effect in most cases.
As for snitching - how do you figure that?
This is still the case.When I played up at school, the school dealt with it (when my parents found out, I copped it at home as well).
Same here, and we did/do with our son. I said that in the last post.When I played up outside school (as in your son's case) my parents dealt with it directly.
There has been an ongoing series of taunting and remarks over several weeks....Almost all to do with how much time my son spends with another/other girls in the playground at school. It's hard to read; quite possibly the boy is resentful or jealous of this, and is expressing himself by being a smart@rse and rude, with the tone of conversations getting worse and worse over the weeks. It culminated with my son having to tell him if he didn't stop he would belt him one...the boy didn't stop, so he belted him one....two, actually .Cyber bullying? Please.
There is an element of bias - I am aware that this can colour a view, which makes me more sceptical that there is one offender in this - but I know there never is, and I told my son this...he knows I know that he is partly to blame somehow. The conversations are all there for anyone to read, and it is easy to see he (my son) was trying to do the right thing throughout. He had learned his lesson about language and with nasty comments from the lecture he got over the last incident.Your son seemed to be holding his own in that conversation, but then we are only getting one (very biased) side of the story.
Yes, he did. I know that all kids (and adults) lie, so my BS antennae is always up in these sorts of situations.He came to you voluntarily, with full evidence of his participation? Really?
Yes and no; he came to me for my advice on what to do, because only 2 mins earlier in the conversation he was chatting quite happily with the girl, until the boy came into it and said something to her in a private text - which was a straight out lie, and unfortunately the girl believed the other boy. As I said before; these kids are 11 year olds.Reading between the lines, he came to you to get sympathy when the girl he was keen on took the other boy's side, expecting you to sympathise with him.
We did, as I said.If your son is having issues outside the school, deal with it directly.
We know this, and was explained as a possible scenario to our son, but it is prt of a pre-existing pattern, which we believe could be jealousy.Again, reading between the lines, this so called 'bully' was trying to impress the girl by appearing more alpha than your son in order to win her approval.
Mate, you're trying to tell us how to suck eggs.This is going to happen to him throughout his life.
You're not reading the previous posts very well it seems...the school make it very clear about their stance on this sort of behaviour..every parent and child at the start of each year have to sign off on it on one of those PC forms they dream up..."your rights as a parent/student", "your responsibilities as a parent/student" etc.If you go to the principal, holding his hand, he's going to look like a beta wimp.
I think after 52 years I can differentiate - to a reasonable degree between the various forms of people's' behaviours, and what their agendas are in their words and body language.Of course, none of that was a conscious choice on the boy's part. It's all a part of growing up. You need to separate what really is bullying and what isn't and deal with each issue as it arises.
Quite right.In this case, the lesson appears to me to be an opportunity for you to teach him to be an honourable man and if girls he meets don't show appreciation for that, then they are not worth his time
Our family tries
I have a 13 and 16 yr old and generally we have managed okish so far with the basic context of "if you arent going to say it face to face dont say it via any other media"
I have done some specific research into this stuff via some academics in the area and its SCARY !
My personal experience and view is that a sub 13 yr old shouldnt have immediate and direct unsupervised access to any device..............
yeah I know, I going to cop an earful, and yes I know realistically its hard to police and implement,.....................
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In a way I agree; to a degree (not about me getting slapped in the head ) the phones are not really necessary, and our boy won't get one until he can fund it himself (a fair way off I'd say).Our kids are just 21,23,24,29
While they lived with us, only my daughter (oldest child) had a mobile phone when she turned 16,which she paid for with her afterschool job. At that time, there wasn't any internet on the phones, few even had cameras,and texting wasn't all that common.
One son still doesn't have a mobile phone..mainly because he hates them.
The other just bought one, because his friends don't answer the phone. Even according to him, his friends don't use it as a phone, but for texting.
Our 3rd son, bought one a couple of years ago.
Parents should stop this foolishness now.
Children do not need these gadgets.
They serve no valid purpose.
Our computers were required to be in the loungeroom room, where they could be monitored.Rob had lockouts on these so no porn could be accessed.
The internet can be a very useful tool, when used correctly.
Any parent who allows a child to have these gadgets, needs their head slapped.
In a way I agree; to a degree (not about me getting slapped in the head ) the phones are not really necessary, and our boy won't get one until he can fund it himself (a fair way off I'd say).
I also agree with no computers or tv's in their bedrooms - always in an open area among the family.
Having said that; one of our friends has an 18 year old son who has a computer in his room. We have been to their house numerous times and he has not been sighted - in the bedroom playing Xbox and god knows doing what else. Sounds bad, and stereo-typical of what many adults are frightened of kids being like these days.
But; he has turned out a terrific young man, works hard, is polite and helpful, intelligent and so on. He's a credit to the human race.
So, it's a bit hard to say it's all bad, just because there are arguments online now and then. I mean; god - look what goes on here, and we are supposedly sensible, intelligent adults.
I like the idea of kids having a prepaid phone for emergencies etc; and they can pay for it themselves. A text is easy and cheap to say "Dad, please come and get me; I've lost my wallet and can't catch the bus" etc.
I remember being stuck in places far from home for various reasons as a kid, and no phone in sight. Woulda been handy back then.
The texting is an interesting one, and as I've said; it's a double edged sword. Useful but also dangerous when kids are left to their own devices with them as we all know.
I don't think it's that big a deal as long as parents are involved and engaged and part of their kids' lives.
We've had a "fun" few weeks with these issues , but there has been an enormous amount of learning done by those kids concerned....
That's what it's about with kids; give them a bit of responsibility, guide them and allow them to learn from their (and our) mistakes.
I respect your decision, and strength for being able to say NO.Bayview,
I will agree it is so much harder now for parents , when all the other kids have these devices.
For now, I think the potential for problems, outweigh the positives.
For us, it would still be a no. Most of their friends would have a phone, so I know, they could still contact us should they need us.
In terms of phone, I really like that he has one. He's always out and about with his friends - I can call at any time and find out where he is. Its very handy when I need something.