i still have doubts as to whether this income isn't taxable even as a boarder. The $200 a week covers everything. I doubt my share of expenses per week is $200 so surely there is an excess that is beneficial to my owner/landlord.
It's not taxable. If she declared the income, she could claim all sorts of things - a portion of mortgage interest, council rates, depreciation on fittings, electricity, cleaning costs, etc, and she'd almost certainly end up with a taxable loss and a subsidy from the government. It's for this reason that you are, in fact, instructed by the ATO not to claim either income or expenses for share house situations.
She was being sneaky, she didnt want to sign a form cos it would risk her being found out she is renting a room out.
You're not clear on the rules, either! She may have been unsure, but in fact, she's not doing anything wrong.
The inviting 3 people to stay without asking a flatmate she says is what you do in china so i am supposed to accept that and be okay with it even though i am an australian in australia.
Has it ever occurred to you, that it never occurred to her, that you'd be upset? She may not be flouting (what you consider) accepted Australian norms to upset you, she may not even be aware of these norms! How could an immigrant possibly know what the usual etiquette is with sharing houses in Australia? These kinds of conventions vary even between Australian families, which is why it should be discussed before living together.
Lou said:
I could have possibly had to pay back a few hundred dollars because she wasn't doing the right thing and was trying to hide it. do you think i needed that stress?
She wasn't doing anything wrong. If you wanted to claim a subsidy, you should have told her prior to entering into the arrangement, IMHO. I think you've probably caused your landlord a lot more stress than vice-versa.
If you have ever spent time in China, or Asia in general, you'll realise that most people there do things like this when they can. It is in their psyche to get what they can and to look after themselves and their fmailies in their own way.
Having shared our home with a Vietnamese family for 6 years, I can only agree with gg1965 that many Asians have a different ethic than we do. That doesn't make it right or wrong, though I have shared your frustration, Lou, when they conflict. What I don't share is your righteous indignation that they should know all our cultural norms and immediately embrace them. If you moved to Asia, would you immediately begin cramming 5 people per bedroom, in order to fit in with their cultural norms? Having only one person per bedroom would seem very spoiled and selfish!
Also as gg1965 suggests, until you've walked a mile in their shoes... I didn't eat grass as a child, because there was no food to eat due to the "American War". I didn't have the government tell my parents that they weren't allowed to live together, because "the Party" required one to work in one place, and the other hundreds of km away. I haven't felt the fear of losing my job and knowing that there is no Centrelink to fall back on; only my family and friends. Of course I'm going to treat my family and friends differently when I know that they're all that's between me and starvation, than I do in our individualistic western society. They don't have the luxury of being able to only think of themselves as an individual.
I have made it quite clear to her that most Australian's would not put up with what i have had to so i think she is going to get in a chinese student in.
I think that's a good idea for both parties.
Lou said:
There is a big cultural difference between us, I am aware of that based on what she has told me about families in China. but she is not in china, she is in Australia and she is living with an australian so she can't just expect me to accept that she is bringing her culture here so just deal with it
Actually, given that it's her home and she's not breaking any laws, I think it's entirely reasonable for her to expect that you'll fit into her culture, rather than you expecting her to adopt yours.