SS you seem a nice enough guy and didn't intend to upset you personally (or cm), but you did make statements generalizing women, both Asian and Western, that I responded to within the context of the subject raised. Most people know there are bad and good individuals, but what amazes me here is that some think all the problems lie with one gender, or one nationality, never themselves. If people worked on their own personalities and behaviours perhaps they wouldn't have had half of the issues they did in the past, or blame others for their own shortcomings. Btw, I've been married 25 years. Husband didn't have assets when we met, I about 70% equity in a house. Both worked fulltime and earned similar incomes over the years, however mine is now 30% more than his (have encouraged him to start winding down while I'm happy to keep working). Why has my marriage lasted? The main reasons are he isn't dependent, or possessive, and has no emotional hang ups or problems with women. Infact he also LIKES women as individuals (I see how he relates to them). I must add however he is not the type to put up with BS, so probably why he has good ones in his life .