I'm in a different phase of my life now. I hardly buy anything anymore. Unless it is to eat or drink or to fix my boat or travel.
I spend half the year in just shorts and wear them till they fall apart. My t shirts are cheap. I even dug up an old bush jacket I was issued in the army in the 80s when it was cold earlier this year. Apparently it is very cool and low quality copies command high prices..... Friends give me clothes sometimes. Not because I need charity but because they now i'll happily wear them and they feel better about paying $50 or $100 for a shirt then sending it off to the poor while it is still in new condition. That stuff just isn't important to me.
My car is old and worth about $3k. Happily drive it to Perth tomorrow. Very happily lend it out when I am OS and I don't have to be precious about how it is looked after. I'd swap to a bike if I didn't have family who rely on me to drive them places.
I have been getting rid of stuff I haven't used in ages. My house looks better than it has for years, more spacious and less cluttered with boxes of books etc.
I love books and records etc but now it is all electronic. Takes up much less space and suits my nomadic lifestyle. Very cheap too. But I will still buy second hand books at markets etc. have been doing so since I was 6 and read Biggles and Just William..... Is part of who I am. But I miss being able to lend people books just because they looked at the, on my shelf. Did I say lend! They never seem to come back again, but that is part of the magic of real books.
I have every Pulitzer Prize winner on my kindle right now and I read them when at sea. I couldn't do that with real books.....
I don't hold myself out as a model for saving money, I guess what I am trying to say is that this whole consumption thing is a mindset. Like losing weight or giving up smoking. Spending really is a habit, short term pleasure etc.
Talking about this stuff in here does seem like preaching to the choir.
I hate going to malls. I feel like I am being manipulated into making choices I don't choose to make.
I try to buy my groceries down on the Main Street at the butchers and green grocers etc. it may cost more but I walk down every few days and just get what I need. I find I don't throw stuff out as much and also don't hoard a pantry full of cans etc. I love to cook for friends. Made a hainanese chicken stock the other day, impressed people and cost way less than shouting at a restaurant. Was fun too. My favourite way to entertain is to cook for people while they hang out in my kitchen and ply me with music and wine.
I'm not stingy with friends or family, it is mostly myself that I choose not to impress by spending. That makes sense in my head
I just hope I get through to my daughters. I really want them to be financially self sufficient young women. So far so good, every time my youngest buys something she divides the price by ten then calculates the value in "working at McDonalds hours". Doesn't stop her from making different choices than I would but then she is a 17 yo young woman
My eldest is into the whole vintage thing. She buys amazing dresses online but she is canny enough to then sell them again on eBay, often for a profit. She models at the vintage fairs and tattoo expos etc and then it all becomes business expenses. Smarter than I was at that age. Way better looking too....
So for rambling. I just wanted to make a small point then got carried away.