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Perp: Thanks for your views. I don't blame my ex or feel bitter towards him. He has made his choice and I accept his decision. He is a decent man in many ways, but his infatuation for another woman has driven him to tear our marriage apart. Both my ex and I have had our allies amongst our...

Thanks, mary&mat, and Sheryn, for your support! I do appreciate it very much. Thanks, RPI, for all those forms. Wow! You are so helpful. I will save them on my computer and use them as needed. Yes, I will see my lawyer, but want to do homework first so he does not charge me too much!

Just to update: I have been busy drafting the financial agreement - working out the net equity (after mortgages) - to give it to my ex with the hope that he will go and see a lawyer. If we both agree to it, then we can sign it in front of our respective lawyers, then file it to court to make...

Thanks, mary&mat, for your thoughts. Things are at a stand-still as ex refuses to go and see a lawyer about the financial agreement. I think he is having second thoughts about the whole thing - he said he met up with our church pastor who has had a few words with him about life-long marriage...

Sunder: Thanks for your post. I agree that things are not always cut and dry in relationship problems and breakdown of marriages, as there are always two sides to the same story. Thankfully my ex and I are matured and intellectual people - we are both hardworking (I don't hide in my bedroom...

Thanks everyone for your continuing support! My ex keeps the details of his (new) personal bank account in his office - so I don't see the bank statement and have no idea how much he has got in it. He is still mumbed about the financial split-up, only said he has been busy at work and had no...

Thanks again, everyone, for your posts and support. 65fbk: Thanks for clarifying the net equity issues in a separation / divorce settlement. I do understand what you said and will keep it in mind when my ex gives me the financial agreement. At the moment, he said he would leave the joint...

Thanks everyone again, for more encouragement and positive thoughts - all help me to stay sane. I have a circle of close family members (including his) and friends, here and overseas, who have rallied behind me and invited me to come and stay with them if I ever felt lonely or wanted to get...

Joyce: You sounded exactly like some of my friends! They all say let him go, he is not worth my love. He is having a mid-life crisis (but he has vigorously denied it). He is infatuating with a younger woman because she flatters his egos, particularly he has power and status in the company...

Thank you again to everyone who has posted replies to support me. I do appreciate all your suggestions as I try to sort things out clearly in my mind. Terry: Yes, I have pdf'ed the important docs and emailed them to my sister for safe-keeping. I keep the desktop computer and he has taken...

Thanks everyone (bigtone, propertunity and EarlyRetirement) for your replies!!! All were very helpful and I appreciated them very much. I now understand that my friend had a good point - why it is important not to sell assets before the binding financial agreement is in place. Except, I did...

After more than 30 years marriage, he told me that he wanted his freedom and independence! He has now moved out of our home (the move was his own decision). I have some questions regarding property issues on separation / divorce, and hope to get some broad views from forumites on these. I...