i am sorry you are in this situation
however i think that sitting and waiting for him to tell you what the deal is......is pretty painful
why dont you write up your version of what you think is fair and get your lawyer to activate the necessary wheels so that some solution can be sorted and things can move on.
there are heaps of places to get free legal advice if you cant pay for it.
just keep ringing around and getting information where u can and put it all together
i wrote my own property settlement in such a way that he got as much as i did so that he would not spend forever arguing .
and i ended up with no child support (long story that
).......but in the end i have come out of it much better off and much healthier than he.
my sister did the same and has a small amount of alimony as her Xs income was higher than hers and she was able to make him see the wisdom of acknowledging her huge contributions over many years
i did a settlement loooooooooong before i was able to divorce and bought the house off him and got him out.
as it turned out that was as well because by the time divorce came around the was a woman in his life with a HUGE agenda and of course a lot of power.
better to deal with finances when the power of another woman has either not developed so much.... or has waned.
because they will have their own priorities on what they think is fair for your husband to allow you
this much i have seen happening to both men and women
the rules should allow you part of his superannuation for starters and surely he has some of that.
the rest of it regarding your properties is too complicated for me
i think taking a moral stance and/or blaming the other party or demonizing them (as is so easy to do and so normal LOL) is not helpful.
your husband is doing this all by himself as he is lead by his hormones.
he is cunning as a sewer rat and setting himself up nicely.
allowing you a bit of his large salary is all very kind but it is what he has been doing for a long time so it should continue til the courts/mediators decide otherwise.
i always had to work and didnt have any super to benefit from unfortunately .
i always had my own bank accounts and credit cards and that is a good thing. i hope you have set one up for yourself by now and added a little something to it
good luck