Im in two minds as a parent, imagine if your child was drowning in debt, lets say they earn $1 per hour and were in $1000 of debt, thats a years wages working part time, thats the equivalent of lets say $70k for a working adult,
now as a parent you dont like seeing your child drowning in debt, getting debt collectors on to them (lets assume the debt collectors are kids from schools)
for $1000 you can solve their problems, $1000 isnt like a big deal for me
you have the option to save their kneecaps and get them out of all their financial problems for $1000, and hope they learn
or you have the option for tough love and let them sort it out themselves,
so where do you draw the line??????
Good point.
I would bail them out if I had the resources, but if they have a track record of financial irresponsibility, the help will be with some conditions attached - they need to learn the lesson and not make the same mistake and expect a free hand out of trouble the next time.
Everyone needs a leg-up once or twice in their financial lives...it's how they conduct it that is the difference in how the help should be given, I feel.
I see loads of cars come in to our workshop, owned by irresponsible younger folk who don't maintain them. And the parents come along and bail them out.
Where's the lesson?
The latest one was this week - a Mercedes SLK350 2-door sports car. The driver is a 30 year old bloke, who has treated the car disgracefully. Bald tyres - and I mean
no tread, overdue for a service by more than 50,000km's, scatches, dents, not cleaned - disgraceful for such a nice car.
Latest visit cost $1500 - service, complete front brake replacement (metal on metal), check engine light on, etc...Mum and Dad paid.
He needs a good kick up the @rse.
We personally have been in financial difficulty of recent times as many will know, and my wife's parents have come to our aid in little ways here and there which really add up.
Conversely; they won't lend their two spendthrift and constantly broke sons any money.
With us though; it's not for being financially irresponsible etc, and they know this. They see us working our guts out to get out of the hole, have seen our track record over the years with investing etc; so they are happily helping and not wanting any repayment.
That's not on. I will be repaying every cent and then some.