Looking at it from another angle..... if parents gift money etc. it is important if you have more than 1 child to make sure they both get the same.
Unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
For eg; my wife's parents are retired, own their house, own a factory and receive a small part-pension from Aus, as well as one from O/S.
So, they are doing ok and have saved a decent chunk of cash - they are super-tight Europeans...
My wife is one of 5 kids. One died, and there are 2 brothers and a sister left.
The SIL lives O/S and is doing quite well for herself these days.
The two brothers are both horrific spendthrifts, and are very poor on the communication with their parents, but always seem to be able to phone up when they need help and/or money...didn't even call the Old Boy for his birthday just recently.
That's fine; but it's noticeably one-way traffic if you know what I mean, and the parents feel somewhat cheated and disappointed in light of all they've done...rightly so.
My wife ends up doing all the running around and catering to the parents' requirements etc...Xmas dinner, birthday dinners and so on.
Also, one of the brothers currently lives in their factory, is always behind on rent, owes them a few grand more from borrowings, but still manages to spend loads on doodads etc.
Fast forward to our situation where we are currently asset OK, but cashflow in terrible shape.
So, the Inlaws have offered us a car, they've gifted us small amounts of money for various things over the last year or so to help out, etc.
They - in their own words - have no urge to help the two brothers financially because or their total lack of input with their parents.
In their mind - due the circumstances - they have no desire to ever make it fair and equitable.