Following on from another thread I have a dilemma I need to sort out some time in the future
How much do you let your kids know about how much you are worth?
I have 1 child (3 year old) who was born when I was 40, so there won’t be another. I want her to have her own achievements and grow her own wealth without relying on ours. As she will probably be < 50 when we go, I don’t want her to spend her life bumming around knowing that a sizeable inheritance is coming her way. I wasted the brains god gave me and didn’t get my act together career wise until my mid 30’s, in fact I still haven’t got that together but that’s another story. So I don’t want her to do the same.
But then, if I get things right with my property investment it would be a good thing to share with her the tricks and traps and inspire her to do the same herself. I won’t mind giving her a hand up but not a hand out. I also don’t want her to go around telling her school friends that mum and dad have lots of houses (only 3, 4 including PPOR), hopefully more to come by then.
And on that note my husband and I have noticed that his sister & B.I.L. are being a bit funny with us, and I’m pretty sure we haven’t done anything wrong. The only conclusion I can come to is that they are a bit jealous. We don’t tell them what we have but I think my in laws do. Despite earning slightly more than us, my SIL and BIL don’t own any property and I think probably have a –ve net worth cause I know they llooovve shopping with those credit cards. We are thinking now that we shall keep our mouths shut about any future purchases to anyone. The green eyed monsters seem to rear their ugly heads when you start to get ahead.
I’d love to hear what others have done about this.
How much do you let your kids know about how much you are worth?
I have 1 child (3 year old) who was born when I was 40, so there won’t be another. I want her to have her own achievements and grow her own wealth without relying on ours. As she will probably be < 50 when we go, I don’t want her to spend her life bumming around knowing that a sizeable inheritance is coming her way. I wasted the brains god gave me and didn’t get my act together career wise until my mid 30’s, in fact I still haven’t got that together but that’s another story. So I don’t want her to do the same.
But then, if I get things right with my property investment it would be a good thing to share with her the tricks and traps and inspire her to do the same herself. I won’t mind giving her a hand up but not a hand out. I also don’t want her to go around telling her school friends that mum and dad have lots of houses (only 3, 4 including PPOR), hopefully more to come by then.
And on that note my husband and I have noticed that his sister & B.I.L. are being a bit funny with us, and I’m pretty sure we haven’t done anything wrong. The only conclusion I can come to is that they are a bit jealous. We don’t tell them what we have but I think my in laws do. Despite earning slightly more than us, my SIL and BIL don’t own any property and I think probably have a –ve net worth cause I know they llooovve shopping with those credit cards. We are thinking now that we shall keep our mouths shut about any future purchases to anyone. The green eyed monsters seem to rear their ugly heads when you start to get ahead.
I’d love to hear what others have done about this.