Change Your Life
I was asked an interesting question in another forum.
It is very much "me talking about me" so if that turns you off stop reading here, but it has received an excellent response and has generated over a dozen PM's of congratulations in the "other" forum, so seeing I have had such a warm reception here I thought I might take the liberty to post it here as well and I am happy to receive a clip over the back of the head if the moderators think it inappropriate.
Originally posted by *:
May I ask you what’s the life of a millionaire really like? Being wealthy does it give your life a lot of excitement? I’m quickly climbing my way to the top but what’s the view like up there?
A very interesting question. The view is very nice - thank you.
How has my life changed?
Mmm, well, first I don’t eat Black and Gold Brand Tuna any more.
That’s a good first start!
I'll let you decide for yourself if my life is exciting - to me it is just my life...
Really, the most important thing is that I have more choice about what I do, when I do it and who I do it with.
My life didn’t change much at all until my net worth was well into the millions.
There really needs to be a new “benchmark” for us to set our goals towards. While I understand that most people would LOVE to be a millionaire it really is not that much if you have any form of desire for a materially extravagant life.
If you just want to sit and meditate a mil will still buy you a nice farm in Byron Bay!
I always say that money doesn’t buy you anything important – love, family, health, happiness, purpose – those are not the domain of the wealthy and people with money have just the same problems as people who don’t - no more, no less.
Wealth is all about choice and ease.
So, on a material level my life has changed a lot.
Some of the changes I notice from the days I didn’t have any money…
I have a beautiful home in one of the most expensive suburbs in Australia – Darling Point as well as my home in Brisbane which was the 3rd most expensive sale for a house in Brisbane when I bought it.
My personal space is important to me and so to have so much room in the house means I can always find myself a quiet spot (different from living with 21 other people in a condemned house which is where I started) and the outlook is lovely.
I have a full time housekeeper, gardener and cook who keep the house in an immaculate state at all times so no cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing or gardening for me. Of course, most people will know that allows me and my partner a LOT more free time.
While my favourite dinner is still grilled chicken and salad with Sarsaparilla to drink, our cook can and does whip up some quite exotic meals when we have guests over for dinner (which is about 3 nights a week and when home, Sundays for a pool side party) and, while not super extravagant, the wine on the table is usually in the $50 to $100 a bottle range.
It also means that all the (5) spare rooms are always made up and ready so when we have guests they can be accommodated at a moment’s notice. Most of my friends prefer to stay with me than 5 Star hotels – they say they get better service!
When I do stay away – which is a lot - I stay 5 Star and usually in suites that I have stayed in many times before so I have a sense of sameness or homeliness (very important for a “Crab”) – the staff at the boutique hotels where I stay usually recognise me and do those little extra things for special guests – again important to me. To people who do not travel a lot they don’t get why spending so much extra is worth it. Just to have a Butler press a shirt so I can have 20 more minutes sleep or 20 more minutes to myself is virtually priceless though when you spend over 200 nights away from home.
I have a nice collection of cars and I love driving my Ferrari on quiet country roads to just revel in its sound. I don’t wait in Taxi cues as my limo driver is always there waiting and I fly at the pointy end of the plane (First Class is a joy) and every now and again as an extravagance I charter a plane to remind me of my goal to again own one.
I go to Europe once a year, another international destination a least once per year, take my partner skiing once a year and head up to the Whitsunday’s to spend time on my 63’ boat as often as I can. (although now I have to fly Jetstar to Hamilton Island there’s even more incentive for me to earn more so I can afford my own jet again).
I throw excellent birthday parties and as I don’t like Christmas away from home bring my family and my partner’s family to me every other year.
I get invited to a lot of special events – charity balls (and you can get fantastic deals at the auctions – like I bought $15,000 in fine wine for just $3,200 and an all expenses paid cruise valued at $32,000 for $11,000 which was less then the return First Class airfares that were thrown in), concerts, theatre, gallery openings, parties, product launches (recently the arrival of the Maybach at our local Mercedes dealer) and enjoy not going to most.
I get to follow my favourite sports up front and personal – F1 in the Paddock Club at Monaco, Melbourne and Imola this year, the swimming and beach volley ball at the Olympics, The Brissy Lions from a corporate box and so on.
I get to meet some great people… Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, Bill Clinton, Michael Schumacher, all sorts of sports people, movie stars (I got invited to Cannes Film Festival by Sandra Bullock this year), politicians, businessmen and the like.
I hate lining up for things and a little bit extra “flash” (as they say in the good ol’ USofA) usually fixes that.
My Doctor was the President of the AMA (they most definitely do not bulk bill) and I have the best specialists in the country looking after me when I need it.
I don’t have to worry about many things – like where next month’s home loan repayment is coming from, can I afford this that or the other, will my credit card bounce if I hand it over, what I have to sacrifice to afford something and so on (and I acutely remember what that’s like from when I was less wealthy and the red face when it did get declined).
All of this I am extraordinarily grateful for. Coming from where I did I understand deeply how lucky I am to have all this, and on the flip side I also like to give back.
I have established a private foundation, and apart from the tax benefits it has allowed me to give away a lot of money to charity. These days I invest the funds I give to the foundation and the other funds we raise. 50% of the profits go back to the fund and 50% are donated. This has resulted in lower donations in the short term but will produce a sustainable fund that will in perpetuity donate to charity and continue to grow (Like J.P. Getty’s fund which is now almost $100 Billion).
I also like to do practical projects, so for example this coming weekend I have, with a group of my Platinum clients organised to build a barn on a farm that helps errant teenagers get skills and trades so they can get back into society.
We have 200 people coming and intend to build it between 9 am Saturday and 6 pm Sunday. This is the 7th such project I have started.
I still go to work most days and have a great company with a great team who I am proud to work with but what has changed is that I get the feeling that, most days at least, we are really making a difference in people’s lives. The company has a small amount of influence with certain people which helps get things done. The Qld government for example were most helpful in assisting us to move our head office to Brisbane and in the process we made friends and contacts in the government and public service which would help us again should we need it. It also means we have the resources to do what we need to do to run our business and move it forward.
The influence extends well beyond that. In our western world people respect people with money more (sad but true). It’s easier to get things done. People are always offering me free things, discounts, extra services and so on to impress me just because they perceive I may have a bit of wealth. Odd that the more money you have the less you have to pay for!
I could go on but I think you’ve got the picture.
If having money has downsides I can’t find many of them…
Maybe a greater sense of responsibility. Maybe a greater sense of guilt when you see things not quite right in the world that money could fix (lot’s more than I have might I say), like hunger and so on.
But most of the downsides in my life come from my public profile not necessarily from money (ie I could have chosen to be wealthy without seeking public attention). Having people recognise you is mostly fun but sometimes difficult.
Like the other night I was running late for my flight home. I got to the airport late but was excited to see that they hadn’t started boarding the flight. The check in person called the gate and the gate said no, so I politely but firmly asked her to try again. The gate still said no and so I asked to speak to the gate person myself and finally after a bit of argy bargy got on the plane. The check in person said “I have been to one of your seminars and now I’m disappointed because I have seen another side of you.”
I mean, what am I supposed to do with that? I was tired and just wanted to go home after a long and difficult day. Somebody making a comment like that just makes it worse, like I always have to be on my best behaviour and never demand anything just because somebody might recognise me. I have seen people do far, far worse than that at check in time! No wonder genuine celebrities get lumbered with the “spoilt” tag. I can imagine the story she told when she got home (although it probably would have been funny to hear).
But to my own personal credit I handled it, I believe quite well. A few years ago I would have full on chucked a tanty and made a real scene, so I’m making progress on the personal development front.
And this leads me to, more importantly, having a bit of wealth (and I do not consider myself rich) has enabled me to spend time on myself. Going to courses, reading books, working with coaches and so on to try to become a better person. I have a long way to go but I am enjoying the journey.
I think I lead a full life, and while I want to live for a long time, believe I have packed as much as I possibly could into my little life, and wealth gives me the freedom to continue to do so.
I always say that money acts as a giant magnifying glass, amplifying whatever you already have inside.
So if you are happy, money can make you happier, if you are sad then money will make you miserable. This is why I work on myself. To find happiness in everything I do, to find peace and harmony in my life.
So has my life changed since I have had money – absolutely.
Has money changed me – yes, mostly for the better I hope.
So set your goals around what will make you happy. Money has no use in the world apart from helping us fulfil our purpose. And for that, it is extraordinarily useful.
And if you set your goals around happiness then you will be happy today with or without money, and if it ever happens (not that it will), I will be happy without money too.