We had an unexpected visitor yesterday afternoon, my husband's "big brother" turned up at our front door.
My husband was adopted out as a baby, so was his older brother, and apart from a little digging around at Births Deaths & Marriages a few years ago, hubby had lost interest in finding his birth relatives. So as you can imagine, it knocked us for a six.
He stayed for a few hours, showed some photos - he found their birth mother about 3 weeks ago, as well as a younger brother and sister (whom she raised with her husband)
The mother and younger siblings are flying down from Mackay this Friday, and hubby agreed that he would like to meet them at the airport. He is very laid back, not much fazes him, not even the thought of meeting these people (I on the other hand, am freaking out).
We agreed when asked if we would host a bbq on Friday (this was going to be in a park in Brisbane originally, but the brother thought our place would be good as we are on acreage, and set up pretty well for entertaining).
I want to be supportive of my husband, but after mulling it over a bit, I feel a bit uneasy about all of these "strangers" coming into our home at such short notice, and think it might be better to meet in a neutral place for the first time.
Actually, after initially being surprised and excited about it, today I feel like our privacy has been intruded upon. I think a letter might have been a bit more appropriate for the initial contact.
I don't want to be a wet blanket, and am happy that hubby has the chance to meet his birth relatives, but I am a bit nervous as well.
If anyone here has had an experience like this, or if anyone would like to offer advice, please do, as I'm not sure how I should be feeling about all this, and how to best support him at this confusing time
My husband was adopted out as a baby, so was his older brother, and apart from a little digging around at Births Deaths & Marriages a few years ago, hubby had lost interest in finding his birth relatives. So as you can imagine, it knocked us for a six.
He stayed for a few hours, showed some photos - he found their birth mother about 3 weeks ago, as well as a younger brother and sister (whom she raised with her husband)
The mother and younger siblings are flying down from Mackay this Friday, and hubby agreed that he would like to meet them at the airport. He is very laid back, not much fazes him, not even the thought of meeting these people (I on the other hand, am freaking out).
We agreed when asked if we would host a bbq on Friday (this was going to be in a park in Brisbane originally, but the brother thought our place would be good as we are on acreage, and set up pretty well for entertaining).
I want to be supportive of my husband, but after mulling it over a bit, I feel a bit uneasy about all of these "strangers" coming into our home at such short notice, and think it might be better to meet in a neutral place for the first time.
Actually, after initially being surprised and excited about it, today I feel like our privacy has been intruded upon. I think a letter might have been a bit more appropriate for the initial contact.
I don't want to be a wet blanket, and am happy that hubby has the chance to meet his birth relatives, but I am a bit nervous as well.
If anyone here has had an experience like this, or if anyone would like to offer advice, please do, as I'm not sure how I should be feeling about all this, and how to best support him at this confusing time