Dear Krisitine, I have a fantastic life.
I've looked forward to the next day at work for over 15 yrs. And if i don't feel like it i can just sleep in. I believe i get out of life much more than i ever put in!
Many times I've bought (and recieved) lunch, coffee etc with friends in the RE industry. Sometimes with a purpose sometimes not. I've always stated "be nice & professional in your dealings".
My approach to negotiating is like Frank Lowey's: "allways leave something on the table" or "i'll just have the meat, you can have the potatoes back".
This does not take away the FACT that RE's are taught how to use our human instincts to there advantage. that they have caused much grief (many times deliberately) to both vendors and sellers. During the boom times it don't matter much, but maybe you have'nt been involved long enough to remember.
I applaud and admire all those who take their fate in their own hands and go study, research and learn instead of taking advice from those who earn comissions on their transactions. This does'nt mean don't use them, but rather understand what's going on and making an informed judgement after.
and thanks for the love & kisses
best wishes
bbg2003