I'm going through the legal world right now. Don't ever think you know what someone will do or how someone will behave .
I cannot help but think you should be behaving like a couple after five years together. (Please don't tell us that you split the grocery bill, the takeaway bill and the light bill .)
If you could transfer half the house into her name, would you then ask her to pay you half of what you've paid off the loan (ie $75K) so that everything is half/half?
If that is how you are feeling, then I think you need to keep this as a business partnership and not a relationship. If you love this person, have been with her for five years, and still worry about the fact that you have brought $150K to the relationship, then ask her to sign something so you can split things evenly, taking into account this figure. Don't forget that should babies come along, all your planning goes out the window.
If you are buying houses with her (to live in or rent out) then that is a huge commitment. I have adult children with such relationships so I'm not being critical. When our oldest bought a house with his partner we wanted him to protect the unit he already owned. But he didn't do that. He is taking a leap of faith. If things turn sour, his finances are only one part of the hurt he will be going through.
Right now he doesn't own much of the unit anyway, but in ten years' time, that will be a very different proposition. But in ten years, they will have done so much together and bought and sold houses and mingled their finances so much that trying to pinpoint who actually owes what and who owns what just would be a nightmare.
So, like most married or committed couples, they have worked out their lives to suit them in all matters, and splitting hairs over every dollar isn't the biggest thing on their agenda. (I'm not saying it is for you either, but it is coming across a bit that you are planning for when the relationship fails.)
I cannot help but think you should be behaving like a couple after five years together. (Please don't tell us that you split the grocery bill, the takeaway bill and the light bill .)
If you could transfer half the house into her name, would you then ask her to pay you half of what you've paid off the loan (ie $75K) so that everything is half/half?
If that is how you are feeling, then I think you need to keep this as a business partnership and not a relationship. If you love this person, have been with her for five years, and still worry about the fact that you have brought $150K to the relationship, then ask her to sign something so you can split things evenly, taking into account this figure. Don't forget that should babies come along, all your planning goes out the window.
If you are buying houses with her (to live in or rent out) then that is a huge commitment. I have adult children with such relationships so I'm not being critical. When our oldest bought a house with his partner we wanted him to protect the unit he already owned. But he didn't do that. He is taking a leap of faith. If things turn sour, his finances are only one part of the hurt he will be going through.
Right now he doesn't own much of the unit anyway, but in ten years' time, that will be a very different proposition. But in ten years, they will have done so much together and bought and sold houses and mingled their finances so much that trying to pinpoint who actually owes what and who owns what just would be a nightmare.
So, like most married or committed couples, they have worked out their lives to suit them in all matters, and splitting hairs over every dollar isn't the biggest thing on their agenda. (I'm not saying it is for you either, but it is coming across a bit that you are planning for when the relationship fails.)