I have one that even refuses to drive to the country. She says all the open space scares her! Doesn't know what she's missing
Yeah wife's don't always get it.
My wife was a classic. True Story follows:
Despite growing up in regional VIC with me, 7 years in Coffs Harbour and 10 years Inner Sydney has turned her all "city princess". More Shoes and Handbags than you can poke a stick at.
And yes, I loved it too but your phases in life change. I had achieved my goals, we had made good money and all I saw was older versions of me in the same game, more money but stressed, having heart attacks at 48, never seeing the kids but working so hard so they could go the private schools to learn to be snobs.
So when Wife fell pregnant I rolled the dice and said lets move back to VIC and house hunted in the Macedon Ranges. 6 months pregnant I pulled up in front of a 145 year old classic cottage in the centre of town, ozzing position, potential, character but rustic to say the least.
She literally said, pointed to an equally old but arger home next door, "you have got to be f*#king joking!". I said actually, it is the little one next door. She said drive on, I said , investment! she said, Whatever. So I made an offer site unseen and they said yes, The only deal was a delayed settlement of 12 months.
Baby came and my wife lost all desire for the flash life, career, she wanted her family, she wanted to enjoy our child. She resented not being able to park with grocery and baby at our door, being frowned upon when she tried to go anywhere tight in the stroller. Having no common friends because they all had careers.
So we moved, Cold turkey. Sold out of SYD and did my version of Green Acres. Spent $100k on renovation. Planning new home at rear ( on old style) and have offer to run cafe/ restaurant form the classic in centre of town. Whilst I was romantic I was practical too!
Sold Alfa Romeo and got a Forester, Hilux Ute and Large Trailer. I am now excellent with Chainsaw and wear RM Williams boots at home. Wife makes jams that are sought after by local foodie delis and knots all of us scarfs. The restored home was feature in local magazine.
Friends?? We have more friends than ever before as they AND we have the time to spend with each other. Even now my wife is at a girlfriend's house for craft night when each fortnight all the mums get together to "stitch and *****" as they say. Each one of them would do anything for us if we asked. When wife's dad died 18 moths back, the offers to help in any way came thick and fast. Food, flower, child care, etc..
Often a weekend childs play date turns into drinks and then dinner at someone or our place. And no-one plans it. It just happens. Put more on the BBQ or more roast in the oven.
Downside is everyone knows you and wants to look at our house but I don't care. You are 99% guaranteed to see someone you know in town if you go and at the market day, dozens. Don't have an affair here! Critters are everywhere, Foxes get your chickens. Rats and Possums run at night.
Fun? We they party hard! Our Halloween is held at the local children park where kids and parents dress up and the kids go from parent to parent to get lollies. The local Rotary Clubs puts on free BBQ and everyone catches up. You lose sight of your kid/s but don't worry as you know everyone here is friends and watch put for each other. You simply ask where she is in and within three parents groups, one will say " other there with Jessica, Eliza and etc,". They come running up, squealing about this and that all dressed a princesses or fairies, begging not to leave.
A local fancy dress for school fund raiser was best night I had in years. Someone donated their own wine, pizza store the same, we ate and drank and danced to 80's tunes till our feet ached. No issues with the drive home as it is 15 minutes and the Coppers are dads as well and are "lenient on locals". If someone is too far gone, they can get lift and leave the car safely.
Yes, it is really cold here. Wood fires are not ornamental. At 600m high we get regular frosts and snow every now and then. Possums eat your garden and your car is muddy all the time. I never clean my Hilux. It has even parked once at the Airport fully loaded with compost.
So if, going to the Local Farmers market and actually knowing the vendors or being one is for you. Volunteering at School fete where everyone put in sounds fun. Having a pony or motorbike and time with your kids to enjoy them sounds great.
Go for it.
Best thing we ever did.
Peter 14.7