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Read the article first, and then watch the video on the link at the end. [From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots. But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars-all in the same day.

Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son & daughter bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much - except save his life. This love story began in Winchester, Massachusetts, 43 years ago when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs. "He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life'', Dick says doctors told him and his wife Judy. And, when Rick was nine months old; "Put him in an institution".

But the Hoyt's weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help them and their boy communicate. "No way,'' Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain".

"Tell him a joke", Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!'' After a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that". Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker'' who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped", Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks".

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad", he typed, "when we were running, it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!'' And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

"No way,'' Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyt's weren't quite a single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially. In 1983 they ran a marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said,"Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?'' How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried. Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmansin Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

"Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own?". "No way", he says. Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling'' he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon in 5083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 - only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time. "No question about it'', Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century".

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape,'' one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago". So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Massachusetts always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy. "The thing I'd most like'', Rick types, "is that my dad would sit in the chair and I would push him once".

Here's the video.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ryCTIigaloQ
 
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Hi KH, wow! I am so inspired and impressed by these types of stories. Overcoming so many adversities with such tremendous tenacity. I look at my own life and am truly humbled.
 
I am touched by those type of stories.

My wife and I (and 4 kids) look after a special person like Rick, once a month, just to let her family have a bit of rest.

You just don't understand how hard it is to look after one of these special people until you have done it. Rachel is coming over tomorrow, we will take her down to the park and take her riding on her special bike.

We took up the chance to look after Rachel for a number of reasons, to help her family, to help Rachel, to help our kids better mix with special people and most of all, to help our family to do things together. If Rachel wasn't coming over tomorrow, we more than likely wouldn't go out for a ride, the whole situlation helps us do things as a family:)

If you have spare time, even if you don't (like us) i would recommend looking after a special person, it is fantastic.:D

Cheers,

GG
 
Massively inspiring.

Having had a daughter that was diagnosed with a genetic disorder at a few months of age (was considered vegetable like condition) , these stories are always of interest. Upsetting, but interesting/inspiring.

Our daughter was only given 6-12 months to live, but survived to just short of her 5th birthday which we put down to the love we gave her (my story anyway :) ).

Dick & Rick sound like an amazing couple of people.

Thanks for the uplifting story Kevin.

Regards
Marty
 
I nearly didn't think to post this story and as soon as I did I knew everyone here would enjoy it. It came to me this week from John McGrath. I was completely humbled and my wife told me she sobbed throughout too (I emailed it to her ;) ).

GG, just learning that about you is a great result from posting this story. What you do will repay yourself and your family over and over. Great leadership as a husband and father, well done. The quote at the bottom of my post comes from a great American speaker named Les Brown, really worth listening to if ever you get the chance, and you are leaving something in your children which will stay with them for life.

Glad everyone enjoyed the story.

Kev
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Thats totally amazing, and almost impossible to comprehend. Made me cry my eyes out watching the video and listening to the song.

Cheers
mono
 
Thanks Kev - that is the true love of a father for a son. I am sitting here with tears rolling down my face. I have so much admiration for them both

Chris
 
l have read this story before but not that long ago.
Yep its a good one, but which one of you as parents would not have done the same???
I bet the Dad does not even consider his efforts as a challenge but only His giving of love to his child.
Running an odd marathon carrying my child to give them some joy.......Priceless


If you find that a challenge then l am not sure what you should do.
cheers yadreamin
 
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