My main thing with babies is that they are an addition to your family, not the only reason for your existence. Remember that you and your husband must still have a relationship as well, men are wired differently to women and he needs to switch from work mindset to family mindset when he first arrives home.
Don't just hand him the baby and time out, talk to him first, ask him how his day was, maybe a coffee then ASK him would he give you a mental break for half an hour or so.
When you get past the "angel on a pedestal" mindset, it becomes quite easy to avoid the "my precious bundle must have the best of everything" trap.
As previously posted most families and friends will have stuff in cupboards that they never threw out, as soon as you start talking about op shops people will be glad to help. I would be learning about equipment and safety standards then doing the op shop rounds for prams, cots etc.
Quite often you will see new stuff on special and/or in op shops so take your time and buy a range of sizes when it is available.
Healthy babies will always grow if fed, watered and changed to keep them comfortable, they are far tougher than the current Yummy Mummies think they are and remember they have not read the latest book and don't care if their clothing and pram did not cost a bomb.
Just love them and do what you feel is right
Don't just hand him the baby and time out, talk to him first, ask him how his day was, maybe a coffee then ASK him would he give you a mental break for half an hour or so.
When you get past the "angel on a pedestal" mindset, it becomes quite easy to avoid the "my precious bundle must have the best of everything" trap.
As previously posted most families and friends will have stuff in cupboards that they never threw out, as soon as you start talking about op shops people will be glad to help. I would be learning about equipment and safety standards then doing the op shop rounds for prams, cots etc.
Quite often you will see new stuff on special and/or in op shops so take your time and buy a range of sizes when it is available.
Healthy babies will always grow if fed, watered and changed to keep them comfortable, they are far tougher than the current Yummy Mummies think they are and remember they have not read the latest book and don't care if their clothing and pram did not cost a bomb.
Just love them and do what you feel is right