Well put Bayview, I tried to give you kudos, but it said I have to 'spread it around' a little before I can.. 
speaking of kudos, wheres that 'Rob Williams' guy!
speaking of kudos, wheres that 'Rob Williams' guy!
On Socialising
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speaking of kudos, wheres that 'Rob Williams' guy!
I'm here! Went to a mate's birthday party last night. Came home feeling like I was totally different to everyone else. A lot of what has been said on this thread came home to me as I say there trying to "connect" with some new people.
I get more enjoyment out of hanging with like minded folks.
Would love to Amelia, I have PM'd you!
Maybe I shouldn't have written a "waste of time", but with three children, one that is 12mths old- two jobs that have me up at 5.10am and sometimes home at 8.30pm, then a property portfolio and the housework (come on let's face it- we women folk still get left to do most of it-even when we work), I should probably have said this:
I would rather spend QUALITY time socialising, which includes catching up with old friends, than waste my time on idle chit chat.
I'm not really a snob...I promise!
(Forgot to mention that I'm usually studying something....anything for further education on finance/economics.)
Regards JO
I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that can't stand this. I went out to lunch a few weeks ago with a group of women, only 2 of whom I know. All they could talk about was the most mundane and minute details of every single thing their child/ren had done recently. I was the only one at the table that doesn't have any kids & I felt like I was on another planet. I had a coffee & quietly sneaked out without ordering any lunch.
Good luck with your wig ambitions.
Your opinions are inspirational Marc. Kudos sent.
i have the total opposite problem - most of the mum's at the school gate are 9-3 workers, many in professional looking jobs ... and it drives me insane to hear them gossiping about work, formal functions, new cars etc - especially after i've spent a day getting filthy in the garden (new house), been to council re my construction certificates, talked to the broker about financing the next project, washed the dog and had a nap ... give me my life any day!
i too can't stand around making small talk - i don't like going to hubby's work functions as one has to feign interest in all boring coporate wives and chat about what their grown up kids are achieving. give me a gritty, indepth talk about floor sanders, support walls, financing, share market, economy (not the newspaper fluff) and landscaping any time.
does that make me boring too?
haha - too true. my new neighbour had only seen me gardening so the other day i was dressed as i normally do (when not gardening) and he commented i looked really nice, was i going out to lunch. i chuckled and advised him i was going to the hardware store.
i like to look nice at all times - even if it's just me alone at home doing the bookwork. it's a self pride thing.
I've always been the odd one out.
At school I had few friends. I found most of the other kids either boring or bullies. Yet at the skating rink I was miss popularity. Through the years most of my friends were all skaters and as they moved away from skating we lost touch.
Hubby was met at the skating rink and he never really had many friends either, appart from skaters. These days we have a large circle of like minded skating acquaintences. We don't talk much about property to these people, but enjoy their company immensely.
We also have a small amount of acquaintences who invest in property that we really enjoy on the odd times we see each other.
However, these days the couple who are now probably our best friends and also live in the Western Suburbs are property investing skaters. Go figure!
At school I had few friends. I found most of the other kids either boring or bullies. Yet at the skating rink I was miss popularity. Through the years most of my friends were all skaters and as they moved away from skating we lost touch.
Hubby was met at the skating rink and he never really had many friends either, appart from skaters. These days we have a large circle of like minded skating acquaintences. We don't talk much about property to these people, but enjoy their company immensely.
We also have a small amount of acquaintences who invest in property that we really enjoy on the odd times we see each other.
However, these days the couple who are now probably our best friends and also live in the Western Suburbs are property investing skaters. Go figure!
I'm hearin' that Lizzie.
But none of us are "boring"; everyone who socialises with people similar to themselves find their circle of people interesting.
I can mix it with people from all walks - it's part of my career as a golf teacher and retailer, and we are in front of the public a great deal in this profession. I can give a lesson to a high maintenance granny who is a reasonable player, then get a 17 year old super-star-in-the-making protege who is the dux of the class at school as well in the next lesson, then get a guy who is hopeless at golf and always will be, but owns a couple of IP's.
In their own way they are all fun to teach, I loved my Nanna and often the nannas are a good laugh, and I like the good golfers as pupils and don't get anywhere near enough of them, but guess which one I prefer to be talking to?
The IP guy.
I deal with many different and interesting people each day, but gravitate to similar types to me if I can choose.
You know; idiots.
Just kidding; you guys are all pretty good value for me.
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I am by nature somewhat introverted. My gf has been going to great lengths to try draw me out, since she believes (quite correctly) the social skills will stand me in great stead for future networking and career opportunities. That said, I am becoming very impatient with my time. I struggle to connect with people on any deep level if they do not have at least a few similar interests to me.
If they talk about cooking, fitness and health, or property investment, I'm happy to sit around and talk. Heck, when I discovered one of the gf's friends was a property investor, she had to drag me away after spending 4 hours talking about property investment, finance structure, where to find good investment resources and the like! However when her other friends start talking about who is going out with who, this and that actor... my eyes start glazing over.
If they talk about cooking, fitness and health, or property investment, I'm happy to sit around and talk. Heck, when I discovered one of the gf's friends was a property investor, she had to drag me away after spending 4 hours talking about property investment, finance structure, where to find good investment resources and the like!
However when her other friends start talking about who is going out with who, this and that actor... my eyes start glazing over. 
We have a small group of friends from various backgrounds, some real young and some old and we like to catch up frequently.
My partner is a great cook, and we usually have a feast of seafood and we love catching up and entertaining at our house. Nothing like good company, food, wine.
I like the fact that most of our friends are not into real estate and we just talk about all sorts of stuff, and at the end of the night after a couple of reds, its very interesting.
My partner is a great cook, and we usually have a feast of seafood and we love catching up and entertaining at our house. Nothing like good company, food, wine.
I like the fact that most of our friends are not into real estate and we just talk about all sorts of stuff, and at the end of the night after a couple of reds, its very interesting.
I have something similar. I used to always want to go out and have fun. But ever since I started my career my parents no longer paid for my recreational activities.
Realising how much it cost, I have dumbed it down a bit and became more practical, more mature. I still go out and have fun every weekend, not as much on weekdays.
These days, I've been saving and paying off my mortgage. I don't eat out at high end restaurants all the time anymore and I don't waste as much money on clothes.
Playing hard is what everyone needs.
Realising how much it cost, I have dumbed it down a bit and became more practical, more mature. I still go out and have fun every weekend, not as much on weekdays.
These days, I've been saving and paying off my mortgage. I don't eat out at high end restaurants all the time anymore and I don't waste as much money on clothes.
Playing hard is what everyone needs.
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Look, I know that there are illiterate successful people all over the world - we all do, and I never at any stage said what Dazz said wasn't true.
Just overly stated, and that wasn't actually my issue - it's the message behind his post(s) that peeved me.
It's very often a backhanded "look down the nose" at the little plebs in their little resi IP world and simple contracts and small time deals and the subliminal big-note with the condescending tone.
He'll deny it of course.
We all need to remember where we've come from and continue to keep on helping the newbs without the smugness.
Now, let's wait for the "who me?" response.
I just love being with my husband, full stop. There's nobody I've met in the 9 years I've known him who is as intelligent, witty and funny as him (or as good a cook) and while I have my friends, I jealously guard my time with him. Yes, I am most certainly biased but he can run rings around just about anybody.
I often read/hear that 'you have to work at a marriage' and, of course, you can't take it for granted, but I've never found it the monumental effort that people sometimes make it out to be....unlike standing around at parties.
So, yes, I am somewhat less outgoing then I used to be, but then again, I don't need to sit around at pubs to have a great time cos I have it all in my living room.
I often read/hear that 'you have to work at a marriage' and, of course, you can't take it for granted, but I've never found it the monumental effort that people sometimes make it out to be....unlike standing around at parties.
So, yes, I am somewhat less outgoing then I used to be, but then again, I don't need to sit around at pubs to have a great time cos I have it all in my living room
.Like I keep saying, if it's THAT hard and requires THAT much effort, then maybe it's not the right job, relationship, investment strategy for you. If it's right, then it just flows ... it just "is".
I mainly lay low and keep to myself these days..
I hit the gym and train a few times a week at least, I will have a coffee with a mate through the week.
Apart from that, I am focused on making money for the most part! I am fortunate I have a real close friend online I do it with, makes it so much easier otherwise I would be so lonely.
I hit the gym and train a few times a week at least, I will have a coffee with a mate through the week.
Apart from that, I am focused on making money for the most part! I am fortunate I have a real close friend online I do it with, makes it so much easier otherwise I would be so lonely.
It is kind of interesting, the changes/metamorphosis, (some of) us undergo.
I am a networker. Have done the party thing, grew out of that, and I was never a party girl anyway. I'm not much on smalltalk, but have learnt to practice/develop it, it is useful.
I am interested in all people, it is hardwired in me, but not in the party/socialising sense. I have no difficulty making friends, but I also thrive on time alone-some of my favorite pursuits, eg photography (scenery/nature-not people) and rock/mountain climbing are preferably done as solo as possible. I am also quite intrapersonal as well as interpersonal...(I have a strong motivation for self development).
Mr OO is expressive and likes parties, family/friends parties, he does smalltalk and enjoys all that. He is a group guy. I'm more one on one.
We have learnt to balance all that. And yes it took work, but was/is worth it. As has our line of communication taken quite a bit of work, (we have been a couple that have worked on our relationship)...but the majority of "work" has been on ourselves. And very much a free choice, do I want to be in this relationship? For both of us, it was a no brainer.
A huge driving force within me is a desire to learn stuff, any stuff....I love to talk to people and hear what makes them tick, what floats their boats, different ways they do stuff...and if it's property investing...well, that is icing on the cake, but I don't find I make it an exclusive thing. I just find I enjoy the whole thing about people, not bits and pieces.
I love the balance and understanding our lives are now at. With each other, with us as a couple, and how we front up to our lives individually...On so many levels....
I am a networker. Have done the party thing, grew out of that, and I was never a party girl anyway. I'm not much on smalltalk, but have learnt to practice/develop it, it is useful.
I am interested in all people, it is hardwired in me, but not in the party/socialising sense. I have no difficulty making friends, but I also thrive on time alone-some of my favorite pursuits, eg photography (scenery/nature-not people) and rock/mountain climbing are preferably done as solo as possible. I am also quite intrapersonal as well as interpersonal...(I have a strong motivation for self development).
Mr OO is expressive and likes parties, family/friends parties, he does smalltalk and enjoys all that. He is a group guy. I'm more one on one.
We have learnt to balance all that. And yes it took work, but was/is worth it. As has our line of communication taken quite a bit of work, (we have been a couple that have worked on our relationship)...but the majority of "work" has been on ourselves. And very much a free choice, do I want to be in this relationship? For both of us, it was a no brainer.
A huge driving force within me is a desire to learn stuff, any stuff....I love to talk to people and hear what makes them tick, what floats their boats, different ways they do stuff...and if it's property investing...well, that is icing on the cake, but I don't find I make it an exclusive thing. I just find I enjoy the whole thing about people, not bits and pieces.
I love the balance and understanding our lives are now at. With each other, with us as a couple, and how we front up to our lives individually...On so many levels....
