At my workplace there is an air of negativity amongst a few people. As soon as I see them it feels like a toxic spray. Hmmmmm. Next time I'll try that, talk to them & then pretend I have to go. The atmosphere is really toxic at times
Some people are like poison
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A wise man said to me once "Hurting people hurt people".
The dudes in pain for whatever reason/s.
Simple remedy is to come with the opposite spirit whilst staying true to yourself.
If that doesn't work then do this;
The dudes in pain for whatever reason/s.
Simple remedy is to come with the opposite spirit whilst staying true to yourself.
If that doesn't work then do this;
Reading positive books has helped me to deal with this sort of thing. It's hard though to stay cool when negativity is around 
The purpose of this thread is basically what you had described
Some people may have had a miserable career/life or whatever it may be, and that they just cant seem to get over the fact that others can be happy and endeavouring in life.
Thanks for all the tips, will learn to stay away, invisible ear plugs, pretend to run, etc... If all above fails, strangling I suppose can work in this case, only downfall is that I may then face similar scenario in jail
I like to slum it with the negatives every now and then as I find they provide for better intellectual stimulation. People who are overly positive can be a bit like a fluffy Hollywood movie - a nice fun distraction, but simplistic and unchallenging.
The greatest philosophers and writers suffered from crippling cynicism, pessimism and negativity. Had they been less successful, they too would have been dismissed as toxic and bitter.
Every personality type serves a purpose and keeps the world spinning. Person A might give great job interview advice but isn't necessarily the person I'd want to discuss metaphysics with. Person B might be the most intelligent person in the world, but I might not want them as my nurse on my deathbed. Person C might be the nicest, most caring of souls, yet I wouldn't want to socialise with them. And so on.
That said, if the person is both miserable and vacuous... darn.
The greatest philosophers and writers suffered from crippling cynicism, pessimism and negativity. Had they been less successful, they too would have been dismissed as toxic and bitter.
Every personality type serves a purpose and keeps the world spinning. Person A might give great job interview advice but isn't necessarily the person I'd want to discuss metaphysics with. Person B might be the most intelligent person in the world, but I might not want them as my nurse on my deathbed. Person C might be the nicest, most caring of souls, yet I wouldn't want to socialise with them. And so on.
That said, if the person is both miserable and vacuous... darn.
Your above post is well said, but the above line was "spot on" in this scenario
I have a "friend" who annoys the crap out of me, but I know if I tell her what I feel that will hurt her, and I don't want to do that. So I minimise the contact I have, withdrawing without being obvious, letting her call me. She is no fool and I know that she realises what is happening.
I find it very difficult to even have a phone call with her because I'm on edge, careful what I say. I hate it.
She is the most private of people but we've known each other for so long that she has told me things that she wouldn't have told other people. But for such a private, guarded person, she asks the most personal of stuff of me, and of others. I cringe when I hear some of the things she has asked people but she gets huffy and offended if the most banal question about her past or present is asked of her.
My dilemma is how to limit this contact without offending her, and one day I'll just explode and say exactly what I think, and that will be the end of it.
I find it very difficult to even have a phone call with her because I'm on edge, careful what I say. I hate it.
She is the most private of people but we've known each other for so long that she has told me things that she wouldn't have told other people. But for such a private, guarded person, she asks the most personal of stuff of me, and of others. I cringe when I hear some of the things she has asked people but she gets huffy and offended if the most banal question about her past or present is asked of her.
My dilemma is how to limit this contact without offending her, and one day I'll just explode and say exactly what I think, and that will be the end of it.
If she is so up front to you, then she would expect the same from you.
I would told her straight up what you think if this is a "friend"
Honestly, I don't think of her as a friend any more. We have nothing in common at all except we used to live beside each other. But I have no desire to hurt her feelings, and I know others have done so, and I've seen how hurt she has been.
So I just limit my contact with her. I believe she is fully aware of when I'm annoyed by what she says, but I just cannot take that step over the line into the territory of "no return".
Don't explode Lizzie...wait until (if ever) she asks you why you are avoiding her.
Most people get the message eventually that they are not the flavour of the month when you don't respond to emails/phone calls etc, or indeed stop initiating contact of your own.
Not Lizzie... it is me with this little problem. You were reading with your "man eyes" weren't you?
And what you suggest is exactly what I've been doing for a few years now. It is working, and she's pretty cluey and I know she isn't silly enough to not "get" how things are. I just wish I had the balls to come straight out with it, but I don't
.I've stretched things out so much this time that it is probably March since we actually had an arranged meet up. I get occasional long phone calls (only two or three in that time, always initiated by her). Is this a "woman" thing, or do men also use this "stop initiating contact" thing too?
Everyone does it.
It's easier for most folk to simply let the painful person go, than to have an argy-bargy with them.
Yep - not me ... I'm to happy and shallow and "foot in mouth" to have friends like that.
Either I don't notice by being to wrapped up in my own happy, too bubbly with my own news they don't get a negative look in, or I let it slip ... opps.
Call me Tigger
I don't understand why someone else can be that influential and important.
Or just another way of saying "Get a life".
Or just another way of saying "Get a life".
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