Stop treating her like the princess, she isn't and she will have a lot better chance of getting on in the real world.
*We* don't. EVERYONE else does. That's the problem - WE try and get her to work for things, or save, or attempt to solve problems by herself. She hates this and goes off in a snit and gets someone else to do it for her. She is the absolute queen of being helpless and getting other people to do things for her. She's even got her little sister doing things for her now. She's had a bloody great club of boys fawning over her and doing her bidding for YEARS and if one doesn't do her bidding well enough she gets one that will. Unfortunately she really *is* very pretty and she *is* top of the class academically and like it or not, this gets her special treatment. If she was bog standard average I don't think I'd have this problem. It was much worse when she was in a smaller class at school and was actually the top of the entire school not just her class - I was very glad to get her into a bigger class and some of the problems with her wrapping people around her fingers dropped off, but not completely. Her last teacher actually let slip she was #1 in her earshot. Bad move.
Drives me completely, utterly insane. And I can't stop other people doing it either, I don't find out until after the event. She tends to use the line "my mum won't let me ..." all the time. No, your mum said "that'll cost $100, that's 9 weeks of jobs but you can do X, Y and Z jobs for extra and you'll get there in no time". But she talks someone else into GIVING it to her in the meantime so who cares about doing jobs? Hell, I wouldn't buy her lunch at school at her old school because it is such a waste of money so she'd throw her lunch away, bat her eyelashes at the teachers that her horrible mum didn't give her lunch and they'd BUY HER THE LUNCH SHE WANTED. And she got away with it for half a year until I accidentally found out
Turned out one of the teacher's aides was practically waiting on her hand and foot.
I did have one daycare provider actually work out what she was doing when she was smaller and started querying things and wouldn't let her get away with it, but that woman is the only person I've hit so far. Wish there were more like her
We have her pegged as either a supermodel or a lawyer when she grows up. Or some other role where you get to have minions, but I can't think of any others offhand.
ETA: her dad had (last time I checked - I didn't exactly date the man for long) similar entitlement issues, but the grownup version, which is what I'm trying to avoid. I'm so smart, I'm so good looking, everyone should do what I think they should, women should fall into my lap (admittedly it worked for me, briefly). It led to a very long police record of *dropped* charges. Sure, he's in Mensa, sure he's insanely good looking, but neither of those give the gift of common sense. And they are not attractive traits.