I am a hard bestard on these things.
I don't generally cut women a lot of slack for being hard done by.
Men and women have equal access to education these days. There's no exucse for being a ditz and saying you didn't know this or that about your partner when you fell in love.
Partnering up for life is a serious decision, and you want to know the person you are partnering up with really really well. it ain't about all the feel good stuff primarily....values, dreams, goals, character eventually demand their place.
If a person decides to marry someone overbearing or passive or whatever, and hasn't explored all the deeper stuff, then watch the karma.....
I've seen it time and again amongst couples I've known.
And every time it is the result of not taking a more sober and considered approach to what criteria you choose a life mate.
I see no other way forwards then to let your friend stand up in the relationship and demand equal power with the husband. If he doesn't want it that way, then she will live the rest of her life compromising her own evolving values, or she should walk away. He'll either get it or he won't. If he doesn't she is better off moving on.
OTOH, if this woman has been lying, (passively) saying she needs $X a week for bills, and then she's been stacking excess away to make 40k, then she's abused the trust between them....and no wonder he is upset.
I don't generally cut women a lot of slack for being hard done by.
Men and women have equal access to education these days. There's no exucse for being a ditz and saying you didn't know this or that about your partner when you fell in love.
Partnering up for life is a serious decision, and you want to know the person you are partnering up with really really well. it ain't about all the feel good stuff primarily....values, dreams, goals, character eventually demand their place.
If a person decides to marry someone overbearing or passive or whatever, and hasn't explored all the deeper stuff, then watch the karma.....
I've seen it time and again amongst couples I've known.
And every time it is the result of not taking a more sober and considered approach to what criteria you choose a life mate.
I see no other way forwards then to let your friend stand up in the relationship and demand equal power with the husband. If he doesn't want it that way, then she will live the rest of her life compromising her own evolving values, or she should walk away. He'll either get it or he won't. If he doesn't she is better off moving on.
OTOH, if this woman has been lying, (passively) saying she needs $X a week for bills, and then she's been stacking excess away to make 40k, then she's abused the trust between them....and no wonder he is upset.