many marriages dont make it past 15 years, 20 years these days. I sometimes think if they didnt live together full time they might enjoy time to themselves as well as some company from their trusted partner. Sometimes having some separate areas, bedroom , tvs in the same home can mean for enough time to ourselves and a longer lasting love . I hve friends who believe that.
Many men in their 50S are divorcing after long term marriages, with kids of various ages. Women find guys in their 50S very hot, very attractice, especially one who has been so devoted to his family all these years.
Maybe she will regret and come back.
Maybe you will at some stage gain practice on dating sites and functions at meeting people, dating, and getting some emotional attention and physical touch, all of which can be very comforting while suffering shock.
There were oprah shows on a married woman going away for an entire year to find what she enjoyed and care for herself, while retaining her marriage. Apparently women dont get enough time to themselves if working and raising kids. It can help them to go away alone for a weekend or so every couple of months also if they feel like it.
Some men are lucky and after reading profiles, meeting a few people, they find someone wonderful and it lasts. Some take a few more tries. There are alot of good people out there and new friends, some attention, and touch can help.
The shock is the hardest the first months. I know others who just wanted to tell anyone who would listen. Who shook and felt nauteous for a few months. Touch of a caring person can help the shock hard as it is to move on, but you will decide what to do when. Many women leave or kick their husbands out only to regret it later.
You might decide to be caring but not intrusive or needy and see what happens. You might decide to get some touch from another woman dating.
STaying in bed can increase the shock, though you might need to be very gentle with yourself for months. YOu might find on days you have to get up for something that you actually feel better, so trying to do some things can help us emotionally.
Good luck with it all. I"m sorry to hear all of this and hope it resolves well. YOu have gotten alot of good advice already.
It can feel like life is over but very quickly with a new person in your life it can feel comforting and hopeful again if thats the direction you take at some stage.
Have you done anything to try to win her back if thats the tact you want to take, though giving her peace can help possibly, but cards, books of memories you appreciate, loving words might help.
Some women do make drastic changes in menopause. Some regret, some are happy alone, can care for themselves and have peace and quiet.
Good luck , take care of yourself, eat, sleep, go out, have a walk, socialise, have some caring friends, seek counselling, google articles on break ups, or whatever you are going through there is alot on the web to google that is very helpful.