Hi, you have a goldmine of answers in here. i hope these have eased your troubled mind. If you're marriage is worth rescuing then do whatever it takes and be READY to do a lot of work - with loads of humility i may add. Forget the internet friend and focus on the marriage. Take yourself back 10 - 11 years ago when you met your wife. What was it that attracted you to her. Any fun memories together? Feel these again - it will give you warmth and smile.
with the day to day distractions it is easy to grow apart from partners without realising it. Have a goal together as a couple, as a family, and talk about it every now and then because without it it's just like living day in day out until you get bored and then you look for new activities, 'new' friendships and so on.
could i suggest a powerful exercise.
Once per week or fortnight, go for a walk with your partner and ask this question.
"What one thing would you like me to start, stop, do more of or do less
of in our relationship? Then shut up.
You must let the other person talk without you butting in, or fear of
attack. You must bite your tongue, you cannot explain or defend, your
job is only to listen till they have finished. This could be a long or a
short process and one of the most revealing things you could ever do.
When they are finished, it's their turn to ask you.
Write down each of your respones on a scrap of paper that both of you will keep forever and refer to it every now and then. You will be amazed. It will give you a 'Wake Up' call and the fuel to launch new goals, new directions as husband and wife.'
Desire to fix it and you will get results.
All the best.
with the day to day distractions it is easy to grow apart from partners without realising it. Have a goal together as a couple, as a family, and talk about it every now and then because without it it's just like living day in day out until you get bored and then you look for new activities, 'new' friendships and so on.
could i suggest a powerful exercise.
Once per week or fortnight, go for a walk with your partner and ask this question.
"What one thing would you like me to start, stop, do more of or do less
of in our relationship? Then shut up.
You must let the other person talk without you butting in, or fear of
attack. You must bite your tongue, you cannot explain or defend, your
job is only to listen till they have finished. This could be a long or a
short process and one of the most revealing things you could ever do.
When they are finished, it's their turn to ask you.
Write down each of your respones on a scrap of paper that both of you will keep forever and refer to it every now and then. You will be amazed. It will give you a 'Wake Up' call and the fuel to launch new goals, new directions as husband and wife.'
Desire to fix it and you will get results.
All the best.