Most aussies don't know their neighbours

[random]

Agreed Unfortunately I find it hard enough catching up with mates and relatives so I have little interest in hearing about the next door neighbours day or week or problems in life.

Like cs2 & biggles, I want to be able to walk out the front & mow or check the mail or whatever without being caught up for half an hour each time.

Same here , not a neighbour person at all . Mind you , there's a crazy blonde that's moved in up the road. Her 2nd floor windows face mine unfortunately. Well it is when she comes out from the shower and drys off close to window , that really upsets me , she's cute too but eh , I put up with it !
Actually she's been lighting all these candles at night lately , she started off with about a 100 and I spose they've mostly burnt up because she's down to about 12 now.
I'm obviously going to have to drop in , see if I can help !

Cheers

ps , thought I'd better ad , knowing the way posts are so easily misunderstood- of course it don't upset me , twas a joke , gonna miss her if I move out to my 10 ac.

 

[Aaron Sice]

we have our neighbour's kids over to play with our kids.

we sit out the front on hot nights and get pished after the kids have gone to bed.

we dogsit for each other.

looked after our elderly neighbour when her husband went missing for a day.

always been like this with our neighbours. always. you have to. who do you turn to in times of need? our families are so spread out that we can't rely on them anymore.

 

[random]

Yeah see I really like the idea of what you have in theory but it doesn't work for me. I'm moody and easily bugged . Whenever I have had that ,they turn up at the wrong time and get on my nerves.

 

[jaycee]

I reckon we have lost it sometimes.. we've created these societies which no one really understands - how sad to not want to talk and interact with other human beings. Those who purposely avoid neighbours, do you also avoid your work colleagues etc in case they ask you a question ?

 

[random]

Personally I don't care about someone asking me a question , I just don't feel like talking to just anyone 24/7 myself.
But your right , Australia's a bit of a joke like that I reckon , underneath it's all mostly about dog eat dog and looking after number one, money , the Joneses .

Poorer countries have 20 fold more selfless interaction , family or help out and give you the shirt of their back attitude than we do.

 

[jaycee]

Personally I don't care about someone asking me a question , I just don't feel like talking to just anyone 24/7 myself.But your right , Australia's a bit of a joke like that I reckon , underneath it's all mostly about dog eat dog and looking after number one, money , the Joneses .

Poorer countries have 20 fold more selfless interaction , family or help out and give you the shirt of their back attitude than we do.

What does that sentence mean ?

 

[random]

How do you ask , I'm moody and I like my space . Neighbours just start turning up at anytime if you open that door and I don't feel like it at just any time. It's just my nature !

 

[wylie]

How do you ask , I'm moody and I like my space . Neighbours just start turning up at anytime if you open that door and I don't feel like it at just any time. It's just my nature !

Gosh!! We have fantastic neighbours, but rarely do they just "turn up anytime". We don't see the people over the road for weeks on end, sometimes just wave across the road, but they are there for us and we for them. Sometimes we will eat together, but it is never an intrusion. We use the old fashioned telephone to see if they want to pop over to eat, or have a glass of wine.

I think some people are too scared that once they say "hello" their neighbours are going to be popping in and out like rabbits. It is not "Neighbours" folks. You can be friendly without sharing spit .

I think lots of people are missing out on a lot of friendly interaction and that's kind of sad.

 

[Luv2Travel]

I think lots of people are missing out on a lot of friendly interaction and that's kind of sad.

I have friends for that, I prefer to choose who I associate with and keep my neighbors at a friendly distance. They're harder to escape than a friendship if it goes bad.

 

[Brett IP]

I have friends for that, I prefer to choose who I associate with and keep my neighbors at a friendly distance. They're harder to escape than a friendship if it goes bad.

Exactly, why is someone seen as not being friendly just because they want their own space within their "place of peace", I.e where they live.

I wont be nasty to neighbours, ill wave or have a quick chat at times, but id certainly prefer to dine &/or spend time with close friends or relatives who have been there your whole life.

 

[Sheryn]

I must be anti-social - that would drive me insane!

I would have to agree but I did say Hubby I can ask him 'What's the latest news in the street?'


Cheers
Sheryn

 

[jaycee]

I have friends for that, I prefer to choose who I associate with and keep my neighbors at a friendly distance. They're harder to escape than a friendship if it goes bad.

It;'s the spontaneous interaction that occurs wghen people are coridal and polite to each other when though they dont know each other or care deeply about each other that wylie was talking about... she wasn't suggesting you choose not to have friends or any friendly interactions with anyone LOL

Strikes me as sad when the first thing in people's minds is anger / annoyance,. but should we be on the receiving end of the cold shulder type treatment "undeservedly", we complain about people being rude to us !

 

[Luv2Travel]

Strikes me as sad when the first thing in people's minds is anger / annoyance,. but should we be on the receiving end of the cold shulder type treatment "undeservedly", we complain about people being rude to us !

I'm not suggesting anyone be rude. If I see my neighbors at the letterbox, I smile and say 'Hi' and leave it at that. I feel comfortable going out my front door, knowing that I won't be stopped by someone who has too much time wanting a half hour chat. If that makes me cold and rude, so be it.

In saying that, I must admit, if I had kids and lived in a suburban street/court, with lots of kids who all socialised, then perhaps I would be a bit more social in the street scene. However, I don't, I'm single and I really don't care to know about my neighbors lives, or want them hanging around.

 

[weg]

I'm with BrettIP and Biggles on this one.

I certainly don't encourage anything beyond a chat over the fence (happens a lot), popping in with a gift for a newborn neighbour or helping out in an emergency as neighbours often do.

I don't even go to our street Christmas party although my kids do love it.

I hardly keep up with my own family and friends, and would be mortified if neighbours popped in for visits unannounced.

That said I still occasionally see a neighbour from our last address but I think this was based on our very similar views (not popping in unannounced ) as well as having shared friends.

 

[Luv2Travel]

I hardly keep up with my own family and friends, and would be mortified if neighbours popped in for visits unannounced.

I don't even like my friends and family popping in unannounced. I've made jokes with friends (am just blunt with family), as they say truth in jokes, about I won't answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone. And I would never turn up to someone's place unannounced. The thought of someone coming around, and being in my PJ's or looking a wreck, or in the middle of the housework... no thanks!

 

[jaycee]

I'm not suggesting anyone be rude. If I see my neighbors at the letterbox, I smile and say 'Hi' and leave it at that. I feel comfortable going out my front door, knowing that I won't be stopped by someone who has too much time wanting a half hour chat. If that makes me cold and rude, so be it.

In saying that, I must admit, if I had kids and lived in a suburban street/court, with lots of kids who all socialised, then perhaps I would be a bit more social in the street scene. However, I don't, I'm single and I really don't care to know about my neighbors lives, or want them hanging around.

why are you so adamant in presenting it so negatively ? Your description is really not that diffetn to eveyone most eveyone else on average, but you are trying to make it sound like everyone else is worse than you in wanting to waste their and your time.

 

[ianvestor]

Sometimes when we arrive home I get that theme song in my head... you know, the one that goes "Neeeeeighbours, everybody hates the neeeeeeighbours".

 

[weg]

I don't even like my friends and family popping in unannounced. I've made jokes with friends (am just blunt with family), as they say truth in jokes, about I won't answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone. And I would never turn up to someone's place unannounced. The thought of someone coming around, and being in my PJ's or looking a wreck, or in the middle of the housework... no thanks!

This never happens to me - even family ring beforehand. People are generally so busy nowadays to not do so is a bit rude imo.

 

[pennyk]

I had friends drop in unannounced last week....... it doesn't happen very often, and of course this was one of those days when I was still in my PJ's at 4pm on a Saturday afternoon! they just had to wait around til I was presentable.
the worst thing for me at the moment is I'm still bald post-chemo, and if people come to the door, I have to send my children looking for my wig before I answer the door. Don't want to scare people!!
Pen

 

[Luv2Travel]

why are you so adamant in presenting it so negatively ? Your description is really not that diffetn to eveyone most eveyone else on average, but you are trying to make it sound like everyone else is worse than you in wanting to waste their and your time.

No idea what you are on about...