Most aussies don't know their neighbours
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Errmmm, no you're acting like everyone wants to know you. Some people like to mix with their neighbors, some like their own space. Neither is right and neither is wrong, and are entitled to their own views. Why are you acting like my way is wrong?
Ya gettin a bit carried away aren't ya jaycee . Anything Biggles or any one said is just the way they like it , me included. There's nothing wrong with that however ' that ' is .
Sure that's true, inlcuding me going overboard, just the seeming insistence of "I don't want to be bothered by people" sounded presumptious to me that was all. I'm sure most people don;t mean to be pains in the asses and we all have our own faults, people see us differently than we see ourselves too somtimes as well and all that sort of stuff.
Hey jaycee, this post makes sense. Are you feeling okay?
Both my partner and I enjoy rural life, on thousands of hectares with no visible neighbors it's like your own paradise. We are not, nor ever will be interested in living amid a 'town' nor city, that is one of the things/passions we share quite strongly. That's not to say we ever object to time spent in other places, cities, countries..but home is on the range.
The regional towns and cities I've lived in have been full of interesting characters, a strong sense of community, acts of kindness are automatic. It becomes literally a big family, that has it's upside and downside issues, naturally, that's life.
I love the rural people, and I love my neighbors, in an unconditional sense too, we sure don't live in each others pockets but are there for each other.
Weddings are a hoot.
Funerals are celebrations of a person most of know quite well, but each differently.
Births are celebrated by the whole community, kids are virtually the 'community's kids'...elderly generally speaking have strong support networks, a person with dementia can often last much longer in their own home, own community than city folks, such is the support network.
You walk down the local (even other small town's) street(s) and everyone says g'day or wants to chat.
Course it has it's negatives, but overall it feels like a home, a strong sense of community spirit, pride, generosity, feuds, kindness, humor...unique talents.
I love my neighbors, I love the townspeople. It's a sense of awareness of them, knowing them, but again, not living in their back pockets at all, nor do I become involved in the gossip, just not me, so I still get to control my behaviour, how I fit into the bigger picture..
No brainer for us.
The regional towns and cities I've lived in have been full of interesting characters, a strong sense of community, acts of kindness are automatic. It becomes literally a big family, that has it's upside and downside issues, naturally, that's life.
I love the rural people, and I love my neighbors, in an unconditional sense too, we sure don't live in each others pockets but are there for each other.
Weddings are a hoot.
Funerals are celebrations of a person most of know quite well, but each differently.
Births are celebrated by the whole community, kids are virtually the 'community's kids'...elderly generally speaking have strong support networks, a person with dementia can often last much longer in their own home, own community than city folks, such is the support network.
You walk down the local (even other small town's) street(s) and everyone says g'day or wants to chat.
Course it has it's negatives, but overall it feels like a home, a strong sense of community spirit, pride, generosity, feuds
, kindness, humor...unique talents.I love my neighbors, I love the townspeople. It's a sense of awareness of them, knowing them, but again, not living in their back pockets at all, nor do I become involved in the gossip, just not me, so I still get to control my behaviour, how I fit into the bigger picture..
No brainer for us.
true friends wouldn't care less about the pj's or the wig. i know i wouldn't. they are there to see you as you are.
that being said - perhaps there are different degrees or what people think. i get on with all my neighbours, we chat over the fence or at the front letterbox if we have time - if not we just say hi and continue on - but we definately don't "pop" in for a cuppa unless asked.
Had a divorced neighbour at my old digs. I'm sure he'd wait for the sound of my car to pull up & there he was, waiting at his gate to nab me before I could even get inside the house & put my stuff down.
Used to do my head in! The thing was, his whole life was so negative, all he'd do is whinge. When presented with options to solve his 'problems', he'd give me ten reasons/excuses why he couldn't make things better. A real 'victim' mentality. Trying to change the subject or talk about MY stuff was just not going to happen...his responses were more or less, 'Okay, & now back to me'. WTF!
The worst was, he wouldn't even offer to give me a hand with the umpteen shopping bags I was carrying up to my flat...he'd just start his moaning about his life & follow me upstairs.
I used to pretend I was sleeping when he'd knock on my door sometimes cos I wasn't in the mood for an hour long diatribe about the B/Corp or neighbours. I felt sorry for him being lonely & all, but sorry only goes so far.
That said, he's just the type of busybody you want around you IP to keep you in the loop...knew all the ins & outs of everybody there.
Used to do my head in! The thing was, his whole life was so negative, all he'd do is whinge. When presented with options to solve his 'problems', he'd give me ten reasons/excuses why he couldn't make things better. A real 'victim' mentality. Trying to change the subject or talk about MY stuff was just not going to happen...his responses were more or less, 'Okay, & now back to me'. WTF!
The worst was, he wouldn't even offer to give me a hand with the umpteen shopping bags I was carrying up to my flat...he'd just start his moaning about his life & follow me upstairs.
I used to pretend I was sleeping when he'd knock on my door sometimes cos I wasn't in the mood for an hour long diatribe about the B/Corp or neighbours. I felt sorry for him being lonely & all, but sorry only goes so far.
That said, he's just the type of busybody you want around you IP to keep you in the loop...knew all the ins & outs of everybody there.
Most people who have replied to this thread really do know their neighbours well.
So,....
1. Either those who don't know their neighbours have been too embarrased to admitt it, so haven't posted their thoughts?
Or,...
2. The original article is a load of garbage and people really do know their neighbours these days, just like back in the 'Good old days'?
Or,...
3. Somersofters are friendlier than average?
I'll say it's 2.
See ya's.
So,....
1. Either those who don't know their neighbours have been too embarrased to admitt it, so haven't posted their thoughts?
Or,...
2. The original article is a load of garbage and people really do know their neighbours these days, just like back in the 'Good old days'?
Or,...
3. Somersofters are friendlier than average?
I'll say it's 2.
See ya's.
Sounds like my brother-in-law. I'll take my neighbours any day.
Your brother-in-law was waiting for you every day at your gate when you got home from work? I would have taken out an AVO!
In oz lived two places long term and new all the neighbors and got on well. In Japan lived in a rural apartment block of 6 units for nearly 5yrs. It was after about 4yrs I found out the neighbors on one side had 3 kids approx 1 yr apart but I always thought it was the same kid. Neighbors never introduced themselves or anything. Later moved to a small private area only 7 houses in secluded city area and it only took 2 days for one of the neighbors to complain that my cars weren't suitable for the area. They didn't know the cheap little cars were short term until my Rolls and wifes Benz were ready. Get on as well as can be with immediate neighbors but have one that is just a pain and loves to complain about everything I do, especially if I park one of the cars out the front of the house. She complains that it creates a dangerous situation for her when she drives, funny part is we live in a dead end street. I'm the third last house she is the last and the only cars coming up and down are hers, her husbands and neighbors.
We currently live in a unit complex of 4.
Two are holiday homes and barely get used, and the one opposite us is owned by an older couple who are weird.
God-wallers, and she is a shrew; always barking at the husband, who is partly deaf and ignores her I'm tipping.
So, we have no interest in socialising with them, and they have none in us. Suits us.
Two are holiday homes and barely get used, and the one opposite us is owned by an older couple who are weird.
God-wallers, and she is a shrew; always barking at the husband, who is partly deaf and ignores her I'm tipping.
So, we have no interest in socialising with them, and they have none in us. Suits us.
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