I never realised until the other day how destructive other people's negativity can be.
I've recently been reading a few different books, and most of them have a theme of focusing on the solution instead of the problem, and all that good stuff. I am feeling motivated and positive about my future and my ability to reach my goals.
I came across a friend the other day, and was really pleased to see her. I trotted up and said g'day and asked how she was and what she'd been up to.
Well, it was like being punched in the stomach when she answered me! She was all down in the dumps and looked at me with big sad puppy dog eyes as she told me of all the woe and difficulty in her life. It was as if the air around me had suddenly become thick and heavy, and I felt really reluctant to stay and spend time with her.
In the end, after we had talked for a while, and I had given her a few things to think about to help with some of the problems she was having, she went away feeling better and more hopeful. She even thanked me for helping her.
I was left feeling drained and exhausted though. I'm not keen at all to run into her again, because I walked around feeling kind of deflated for the rest of the day.
Has any one experienced anything similar to this? How do you deal with people like this? I have no problem with helping someone, but how do I protect myself in the process?
I've recently been reading a few different books, and most of them have a theme of focusing on the solution instead of the problem, and all that good stuff. I am feeling motivated and positive about my future and my ability to reach my goals.
I came across a friend the other day, and was really pleased to see her. I trotted up and said g'day and asked how she was and what she'd been up to.
Well, it was like being punched in the stomach when she answered me! She was all down in the dumps and looked at me with big sad puppy dog eyes as she told me of all the woe and difficulty in her life. It was as if the air around me had suddenly become thick and heavy, and I felt really reluctant to stay and spend time with her.
In the end, after we had talked for a while, and I had given her a few things to think about to help with some of the problems she was having, she went away feeling better and more hopeful. She even thanked me for helping her.
I was left feeling drained and exhausted though. I'm not keen at all to run into her again, because I walked around feeling kind of deflated for the rest of the day.
Has any one experienced anything similar to this? How do you deal with people like this? I have no problem with helping someone, but how do I protect myself in the process?