Marc, I agree about the dorky guy trying to chat up the hot chick and getting rejected, but it works both ways you know.
Plenty of "ordinary" girls never get asked because many of the guys are all trying to get the small percentage of "hot chicks" and just leave the others alone. It is a cruel, cruel world, and trying to find a partner in these places often is a waste.
In my years of clubbing, I met some really nice guys, but plenty of guys who were more interested in getting drunk and laid than meeting the "woman of their dreams".
And, remembering back, even back in my day (in the dark ages) women were doing a lot of the approaching. So it is not just the men who are getting rejected.
I would think that nothing changes with the years. Girls and guys all want to attract a good looking chap to drink and dance with. If he turns out to be a vacuous tosser, then that becomes clear within about one minute. Same for women, I am sure.
I used to scrub up pretty well, but not in the "super model" league. What I found was that the really good looking guys would often be scanning the room for something better while talking to me. That was the limit for me and said so much about that man. I am sure plenty of women do the same thing.
I met some really nice guys at pubs and clubs, but I think that is because of the type of girl I was, partly how I looked, but I had much more going for me than a shiny dress.... I didn't ever shun any guy who ever asked me to dance, because I was just an "ordinary girl" who was flattered that someone would ask me to dance or have a drink, and certainly not up myself. Plenty of the other types around though.
I am soooo glad I am not in the pub and club scene now. But it was pretty much the same when I was.
I really don't think "gold digging women" or "super model digging men" are that different, and are most welcome to each other. They deserve what they get