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I'm not sure why, as a society, we seem to be so fixated on the idea that relationships should be forever.
I would argue that we are not. We are focused on the belief that relationships should be Hollywood fairy tales. Hence many marriages end when the fairy tale does.....
I think we should throw away the idea of marriages and move on a bit.. people change, mature and grow, I dont know why we cant just come together, have kids if we so desire, enjoy them, seperate when and if the relationship is no longer working for one or both of the parties.. A formalisation essentially of exactly what is happening now.
Perhaps you are "over" marriages Duncan but we aren't all the same. People believe in marriage due to religious reasons, as a form of commitment to bring up children within, or just because that's what they honestly believe. We have been together for seventeen years and no cracks showing yet Defato relationships and divorces allow for people to choose another way or to leave a marriage.
Throw out the rather wordy, flowery vows that promise an unrealistic utopia of loving togetherness for ever.. and err just have fun whilst it lasts And move on amicably when its over..
Never made those kind of vows. Although I did enter my marriage believing that it was for a lifetime.
I'm all for prenups.. especially for guys as they generally end up getting shafted when marriages finish. It'd be nice if they were legally more rigid and recognised within legislation of some sort.
Duncan, it is obvious that you had a bad experience, but don't lump all marriages together in the same parcel. Like Goanna, we have been married for eighteen years & I am not planning on leaving & I don't think Hubby is either.Perhaps you are "over" marriages Duncan but we aren't all the same. People believe in marriage due to religious reasons, as a form of commitment to bring up children within, or just because that's what they honestly believe.
Duncan, it is obvious that you had a bad experience
I think a lot of the problem with the high percentage of break-ups is that many go into a marriage with the belief that if it doesn't work out, then we will get a divorce & start again. If you both believe that marriage is forever & you are both committed to the relationship & working through any rough patches (& assuming there are no nasties involved like abuse etc), then I believe the relationship will survive.
If you both believe that marriage is forever & you are both committed to the relationship & working through any rough patches (& assuming there are no nasties involved like abuse etc), then I believe the relationship will survive.
I certainly believed my marriage would be forever- unfortunately it wasn't to be (and there's no third party, or too much anomosity), so don't entirely agree with your view, Skater.
I personally married with the aim of being married forever.I think a lot of the problem with the high percentage of break-ups is that many go into a marriage with the belief that if it doesn't work out, then we will get a divorce & start again. If you both believe that marriage is forever & you are both committed to the relationship & working through any rough patches (& assuming there are no nasties involved like abuse etc), then I believe the relationship will survive.
I believe in the old fashioned vows of "Loving 'til death do you part", not the new age mumbo, jumbo. It should not be something that is done on a whim.