Not money but more the appearance of a successful 4-hour-week type lifestyle. Which is mostly true but a lot of hard work to get there and even the whole duck looks calm while paddling furiously underneath happens daily. The carefully crafted Facebook posts, photos, etc. Most people I know are doing the same with social media and it is all oneupmanship. I find the more people boast about lovely relationships the more I am also posting about perks of being single and self-employed with impulse trips to Disneyland with kiddo or deciding to have Xmas in Iceland lol. My crowd doesn't seem possession obsessed more "winning at life" ha ha.
What's your "Jonesey"?
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Not really sure what this all means or the point??
I have no interest in competing, or keeping up with the Jones, seems a waste of energy to me.
Who are the Jones?
Maybe they're trying to keep up with me!
They'll have a bit of a battle considering they only think they know about me.....
Houses, trying g to keep up with SSonesey.
I'll say..hmm, household items and furniture maybe? Ones we have are quite expensive (for our age), but they last a hell lot longer than the cheapies. So if you put it as price vs. Yearly cost, the expensive ones are cheaper.
Anything I buy for my puppy could be count as one I fuss. And coffee.
I'll say..hmm, household items and furniture maybe? Ones we have are quite expensive (for our age), but they last a hell lot longer than the cheapies. So if you put it as price vs. Yearly cost, the expensive ones are cheaper.
Anything I buy for my puppy could be count as one I fuss. And coffee.
One or two honest posts scattered about and then a whole heap of 'I'm not Jonesey, I don't care what others think at all'.
We all care what others think and seek validation. A lot of what we do, consciously or not, is for the benefit of others.
We can limit our level of Jonesiness or limit our exposure to the Jonesiness of others, but only a rare specimen is entirely immune to Joneseying.
We all care what others think and seek validation. A lot of what we do, consciously or not, is for the benefit of others.
We can limit our level of Jonesiness or limit our exposure to the Jonesiness of others, but only a rare specimen is entirely immune to Joneseying.
Actually, when it comes to my kids, I tend to let loose a bit
Your post made me think and reflect...
Have to disagree with you there. I truly do not care what anyone thinks of me other than what I think of myself. Which made me think is why? I remember at school I wanted the cool shoes or the cool backpack and used to compare myself to others and why I wasn't as good as them or as pretty or skinny as them. I was bullied at school endlessly to the point where they almost won.
Then, one day towards the end yr 12 I had a moment where I decided to just let go and stopped trying to play their games and stopped caring what they thought or what they said. It was hard at first but then it was liberating. And still to this day do I live life only comparing myself to myself making sure I am the best person I can be. I don't need others to give me a pat on the back or give that validation that I might be doing a good job. I don't go about thinking "I want to buy a XXXXXXX because it will make so-and-so jealous" or "if I get this everyone will think I'm amazing". I am happy with who and where I am and I don't need anyone else to tell me that. I am fully accountable for my life.
Yes, I do a lot of things to benefit others though, but that's to help them and not often do I get anything out of it for myself other than the warm and fuzzy feeling that I helped someone.
If someone is successful, good on them - I'm not going to hate on them wishing it were me and wonder why are they given all the good things in life. If they want to buy a $500k Ferrari to show off with, then hey, go for it, who am I to tell you what you can and can't and should and should not do.
Anyway, I think I've done enough thinking and reflecting for the evening!
I have a 74yr old lady next door who wants to have a crack and a paramedic next door thats waiting?
Are they jones or jehovah witnesses and or keeping up with my debt?
I dunno,all i know is i'll keep up with my mortgage and will not keep up with anyone called jones or any other name,though i will keep up giving debt to my bank
Cheers
Are they jones or jehovah witnesses and or keeping up with my debt?
I dunno,all i know is i'll keep up with my mortgage and will not keep up with anyone called jones or any other name,though i will keep up giving debt to my bank
Cheers
I don't know the Jones's so don't need anything to keep
i buy what i want with no regard to what others think. Recently I posted on Facebook that AT LAST I got a new phone and was excited. It was an iPhone 4S. Everyone said "don't you mean a 5?" No! I'm not one to pay a premium to buy the latest gadgets.
I do, however like to keep up with other investor friends who lately have been buying more houses than me!
i buy what i want with no regard to what others think. Recently I posted on Facebook that AT LAST I got a new phone and was excited. It was an iPhone 4S. Everyone said "don't you mean a 5?" No! I'm not one to pay a premium to buy the latest gadgets.
I do, however like to keep up with other investor friends who lately have been buying more houses than me!
Fifth IF i'm aloud to disagree with your post,well i do.
Personally myself i don't care what other people think nor want to follow there path.
I make my own in roads,i'm not concerned about keeping up with others.
Well that's me anyway and others that may want to follow that path for whatever reason it is,so be it.
Cheers
Personally myself i don't care what other people think nor want to follow there path.
I make my own in roads,i'm not concerned about keeping up with others.
Well that's me anyway and others that may want to follow that path for whatever reason it is,so be it.
Cheers
You are streets ahead of me. I still don't have a smart phone. My children keep telling me to get one before I am left behind. lol.
I kept my Nokia 3310 (remember those????) so long that even Nokia itself asked me to dispose it
(ok, Nokia didn't ask me that). Those days, when I catch up with friends and when they want to send me Multi Media Messages, I just show them my phone and the go, "ah, never mind" .So far, I have come across two types of Jonesiness.
1. They want/have the latest and the greatest. But, they don't look down on people who don't have it. I have some friends in this category and I can truly appreciate/complement their things.
2. They want/have the latest and the greatest (I have a colleague in this category) and they look down on you. Last week, it's his new laptop. It's like "I have the newest laptop and you don't". It's annoying.
1. They want/have the latest and the greatest. But, they don't look down on people who don't have it. I have some friends in this category and I can truly appreciate/complement their things.
2. They want/have the latest and the greatest (I have a colleague in this category) and they look down on you. Last week, it's his new laptop. It's like "I have the newest laptop and you don't". It's annoying.
If your colleague wants to feel really good about himself, he can come and see my laptop, lol.
Mine would be work recognition probably... pathetic to define yourself thus, but I'm OK with it. Plus I'm not winning so tough luck if I wasn't haha!
Apart from that, I'm not really worried about possessions or holidays etc. Every so often I feel a pang of jealousy when I read SSers who are succeeding, or other people doing stuff I'd like, but then I remember how lucky I've been and move on with my life
Apart from that, I'm not really worried about possessions or holidays etc. Every so often I feel a pang of jealousy when I read SSers who are succeeding, or other people doing stuff I'd like, but then I remember how lucky I've been and move on with my life
Easy point, a lot of people will buy the BMW, bigger house, go to the latest trending restaurants, drink the 'in' wine to keep up with the jonesy thinking they are trendy and cool,
the reality is that you can have all these things and it still doenst mean you are classy or whatever you are trying to acheive