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This is a cop out on behalf of the court. Although it is not the best of situations, the child has a right of access to BOTH parents, where no actual abuse by either party has been proven. For the court to say 'Oh well, you're both jerks, but we're going to give custody to mum. Dad - you can't see your daughter until she turns 18. Thanks for comin'.' is a clear indication of the Family Court favouring women over men and rewarding the mother for violating court orders and using the child as a weapon.
The cost to the father in losing all contact with his daughter makes the financial cost to the mother virtually insignificant in comparison.
Personally, I'm tired of people (both men and women) undermining men's concerns, anger and issues as not being relevant, while continually pushing womens' issues. Men and women wanting to stand up and speak for men have the right to be heard and not pushed aside by people saying 'Yes, but what about teh womenz?' or 'We will deal with men's issues once women's issues have been dealt with'.
As someone who has been speaking up for men and men's issues for about 7 years now, I'm very much used to the various insults and insinuations pointed in my direction by all manner of folks. In fact, it has now gotten to the stage where, if it doesn't happen, I ask myself 'am I being vocal enough?' With that, I present to you a great article on what the author calls cheerful misogyny. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did and appreciate the pinpoint accuracy of the statements made therein.
One thing that is very pleasing to me is that I (and others have also mentioned this) have noticed a rather sharp increase in the number of women coming forward to vocalise their concerns for men's issues, particularly in the last 12 months or so. Hopefully one day, sooner rather than later, we as a society will begin having a serious discourse on furthering men's issues without tacking women's issues on simply to get heard.
"The mother is more capable of providing for [X]’s emotional and intellectual needs. Comment has already been made on the nature of the relationship between [X] and her father and the father’s emotional manipulation of her."
How about this scenario.
Older defacto couple (30 years together). Each have children from previous relationship. Each has appointed one child their enduring attorney. Wife is hospitalised because of illness and dementia. Relationship still intact, but they are separated, ie living separately, because one is in hospital. House in man's name and is the only major asset.
What do you think happened?
This isn’t a men’s issue, this is a children’s issue. I’m not sure if the judge made the right decision, but I’m also not sure if there was a right decision to be made. The rights of the parents are moot in this case. In a situation of psychological abuse, only the best interests of the child should be considered. Stuff men’s rights or feminism. Was the decision in the best interests of the child? I don’t know. It’s open to interpretation but I think it’s far more nuanced than ‘the Family Court hates men’.
I did read your 'cheerful misogyny' link. I wasn't entirely enamoured. I'm not a feminist but I am a civil libertarian. So long as people aren't harming others, it's no-one's business how they behave. If a man wants to hire a woman for a non-secretarial role, he should be able to do so without being classed a gender traitor. If women want to lose their 'femininity', let them.
I found it odd that the rest of the blog is dedicated to the author's casual sexual conquests. The author believes that women's primary purpose is getting married ('limit women to particular tightly-fenced roles until they get married off and leave the workforce') so presumably advocates for more traditional gender roles?
Traditionally the women's purity was expected to be maintained. Advocating casual sex advocates promiscuous women and single motherhood which flies in the very face of the traditional family. The only alternative is that women are expected to be sexy debauched secretaries until they retire to a life of marriage? What happens to all the single mothers and their children?
Perhaps I'm reading it wrong?
No PB,
The daughter of the wife at her attorney made an application under the Family Law Act for a property settlement for the mother. Because the couple were 'separated' the wording of the act allowed an application for property settlement to be made - even though the relationship hadn't ended. The husband still went to see the wife in hospital frequently.
If the mum had died before the husband the children of the mother would not have been entitled to make a claim on the property.
Guess what happened next?
(and who said the Family Law Act was fair?)
How is this a bad thing? Is it better for children to be in a family where their parents are unhappy (or in even worse cases, where there could be abuse, addiction, etc) or where the parents are divorced? If you think that children don't notice the former than you're very wrong. I grew up in a pretty traditional house and for the whole time my mother did not work outside of the home. While my parents are still married, seeing some of the things I did growing up made me absolutely sure that unless I was physically incapicitated, there would be no way that I would willingly make myself so dependent on someone else for my happiness or livelihood. I would think many women feel the same way. The good old days were really not as great as your imagination may lead you to believe.Divorce rates skyrocket
They don't need their parents that much. Children (and their parents) also need time to socialise with people their own age and to develop independently. Obviously not newborns but 3 or 4 year old kids certaintly don't need to be pandered to in the manner you describe.and we now have two generations (soon to become three) full of entitlement princesses who think they 'can have it all'. We have huge numbers of children being raised by strangers in baby day-zoos, because mummy wants to play 'career woman'. Children aren't an accessory, they are actual real, live human beings who need their mothers, especially in infancy.
You can't deny thousands of years of social conditioning either. Women are constantly made to feel guilty about their choices and this is no exception. Women will give that response because to say otherwise will lead to them being viewed as heartless, materialistic b****s.So I bet I've raised the ire of more than a handful of people by now... Well, let me ask you this, if I am 'sexist' why is it, that when ForbesWoman surveyed working women, 84% of them preferred to be stay at home mums. You can't deny millions of years of biological instinct.
We need to advocate for women to do what they want and not feel guilty about it - not to be instruments for inflating your ego or to satisfy some control freak fantasy you may have.We need to advocate for women to do what they do best - be caring, nurturing, loving mothers to their children in the home.
No Ed.
The man was ordered to pay the wife something like $580,000. To do this he would have needed to sell his home worth something like $800,000. He was in his 70s and this is where he had lived for 30 plus years.
It was appealed twice and the man eventually won. But the wife had died in the before the appeals.
No Ed.
The man was ordered to pay the wife something like $580,000. To do this he would have needed to sell his home worth something like $800,000. He was in his 70s and this is where he had lived for 30 plus years.
It was appealed twice and the man eventually won. But the wife had died in the before the appeals.
What's the moral of the story? Get a dog, rather than a cat?
Good.
Someone living defacto should have no claim on anything unless it is in their own name.
They are nothing more than roommates.
Good.
Someone living defacto should have no claim on anything unless it is in their own name.
They are nothing more than roommates.
I never stated 'the Family Court hates men'. I said, the Family Court is heavily skewed in favour of women. Our current Federal Labor Govt. has reinforced this by repealing the Shared Parenting legislation enacted by the Howard Government to ensure that fathers have access to their children.
What I can tell you is that I personally advocate for traditional gender roles. Women excel at raising children and men excel at protecting and providing for their families, they've been doing it for millions of years. Then in the 70's, 3rd Wave Feminism comes along and turns everything on it's head and poisons the water supply.
Divorce rates skyrocket and we now have two generations (soon to become three) full of entitlement princesses who think they 'can have it all'. We have huge numbers of children being raised by strangers in baby day-zoos, because mummy wants to play 'career woman'. Children aren't an accessory, they are actual real, live human beings who need their mothers, especially in infancy.
So I bet I've raised the ire of more than a handful of people by now... Well, let me ask you this, if I am 'sexist' why is it, that when ForbesWoman surveyed working women, 84% of them preferred to be stay at home mums. You can't deny millions of years of biological instinct. Forbes try to spin it by pathetically attempting to make it into something that women have no choice but to work, which is of course nonsense. In fact, they put all the blame on men: Forbes notes that "more than one in three resent their partner for not earning enough to make that dream a reality." Naturally, the choices women make are all men's fault, as usual!
We need to advocate for women to do what they do best - be caring, nurturing, loving mothers to their children in the home. Let dad go out and do what needs to be done to maintain food, clothing and shelter for his wife and kids. When you put these two elements together, it becomes an indestructible force, able to raise confident, loving, well adjusted little people. Not perfect and doesn't work like that in every situation, but look at where we are today: Slutwalks, escalating single motherhood, 60% of first marriages ending in divorce, an ever increasing number of men wisely outright rejecting marriage, thanks to the plethora of horror stories out there in internet-land, female solipsism gone wild, with women putting their wants first, everyone else be damned, including their own children, etc.
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I fundamentally disagree with this.
I have lived with my partner for 4 years now. We share bills etc etc. We will be buying a house soon, together. She earns less than me right now as I am a few years ahead of her career wise, but soon she will have similar earning power to me.
Neither of us wants to get married as we view it as an archaic institution, and we have the choice of whether to join it or now. Currently we don't. But why should our relationship have any lesser value placed upon it, simply because you have a piece of paper and we don't?
Secondly, where does that leave gay couples? They can only really be classed as a defacto couple until gay marriage laws are passed. Are their relationships worthless as well? Are they only room mates too?
Women can't have it all.
Both of my brothers have been the primary carer for their sons. One as a single dad, and the other was a primarily stay at home dad (self employed)
Why shouldn't a defacto partnership, that operates like a marriage, with both partners contributing, be it emotionally, economically, physically, whatever, not have the same legal standing as a marriage?
Simple question. Just want some reasoning behind it.