Skater - I can't take her twins by myself. I don't know what they're like and I don't want to make them even more unsettled. Don't forget I have twins too!! But I do take her DS everyday except when he's at childcare. C'mon, I'm looking after 4 kids by myself already...who's going to help me? but then I honestly don't really need it. Well some days I just can't get on top of everything.
Then when my other sil can't cope and bring her 3y.o daughter over...I have 5 kids under 4 to look after!! I'm serious. I have to feed the twins and whilst they nap I have to organise activities for the older kids...I'm like a childcare centre. But it helps that even when I look after the older ones, I give them reponsibilities, make them pack up toys before getting out new ones, set up activities for them, reading and basically have a bit of structure.
Obsession - yeah my twins are very different. Katie's brilliant but doesn't feed as well as Dayton. But she's getting better now. Dayton had colic between about 3 weeks to 7 weeks but still slept well..just a lot of crying when he was awake but he's brilliant now after we changed to Dr Brown's anti colic bottles (best baby product in the world!). Dayton was also a catnapper for day sleeps so settling can be tiring but I persevered with the patting and shushing so he would get some RSP (deep sleep). Now he's improved loads and can self settle for a full 2.5hr nap. Best part of the day is the mornings when they are all full of smiles and bath time. a well rested baby makes a huge dufference.
another big thing with newborns is that they get overtired easily. 45min sto 1 hr max and back to bed. Even if you miss it by 5 mins, you could have a very hard to settle baby. That's what we found anyway.
Then when my other sil can't cope and bring her 3y.o daughter over...I have 5 kids under 4 to look after!! I'm serious. I have to feed the twins and whilst they nap I have to organise activities for the older kids...I'm like a childcare centre. But it helps that even when I look after the older ones, I give them reponsibilities, make them pack up toys before getting out new ones, set up activities for them, reading and basically have a bit of structure.
Obsession - yeah my twins are very different. Katie's brilliant but doesn't feed as well as Dayton. But she's getting better now. Dayton had colic between about 3 weeks to 7 weeks but still slept well..just a lot of crying when he was awake but he's brilliant now after we changed to Dr Brown's anti colic bottles (best baby product in the world!). Dayton was also a catnapper for day sleeps so settling can be tiring but I persevered with the patting and shushing so he would get some RSP (deep sleep). Now he's improved loads and can self settle for a full 2.5hr nap. Best part of the day is the mornings when they are all full of smiles and bath time. a well rested baby makes a huge dufference.
another big thing with newborns is that they get overtired easily. 45min sto 1 hr max and back to bed. Even if you miss it by 5 mins, you could have a very hard to settle baby. That's what we found anyway.