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- I don't believe a small smack here and there is going to 'damage' a child - each family is different but if children are being constantly smacked and yelled at - taught about fear and not about the right way to behave they are the youths who are more likely to be on the street.
The Australian Childhood Foundation is calling for a ban on smacking children, after the results of its survey.
The Foundation interviewed 720 adults on the way they punish their children - forty-five per cent of whom say it's okay to leave a mark on a child from physical punishment.
Ten per cent of respondents believe it's okay to use canes, sticks and belts to punish children.
I find these interesting comments - how does smaking teach respect? The youths that are 'roaming' the streets I am sure have had more than there fair share of smacks growing up - .
And if you listen to advice from those who do not have children of their own, take it with a big grain of salt. Would you let someone perform an operation on you, if that persons knowleged did not include 'hands on experience'?
I find these interesting comments - how does smaking teach respect? The youths that are 'roaming' the streets I am sure have had more than there fair share of smacks growing up - they probably needed more love and 'respect' ...again role modelling - I don't believe a small smack here and there is going to 'damage' a child - each family is different but if children are being constantly smacked and yelled at - taught about fear and not about the right way to behave they are the youths who are more likely to be on the street.
I find it interesting that Sailor agrees with your statement but has been constantly against smacking during the rest of the thread . That either suggests she hasn't read your thread properly , or has been putting her perception of what people consider to be smacking onto the opinions being suggested by members of the forum.
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Hi Geoff, yes I agree with your comments from a professional point of view, as that is consistent with the research.
Personally, I would never resort to smacking...not even once...as I think there are so many other alternatives that can be used to guide, protect, and change inappropriate behaviour. This is just my personal preference.
cheers
Sharon
I have to say I do agree with Sailors thoughts on the subject - and we apply a 'no smacking' rule in our house.I agree and I don't think any of the people who have defended children being smacked have suggested children be constantly smacked and yelled at . That's child abuse or at the least neglect ( usually due to poor parenting skills )
I find it interesting that Sailor agrees with your statement but has been constantly against smacking during the rest of the thread . That either suggests she hasn't read your thread properly , or has been putting her perception of what people consider to be smacking onto the opinions being suggested by members of the forum.
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There is a lot of evidence around that supports that violence or 'harsh parental discipline practices' (see web site below based on a Canadian study) in the home can lead to youths displaying this same behaviour. Obviously it is not as cut and dry as this or whether a child was smacked or not smacked within the home as there are many factors that contribute.Hi Simone,
Can you please provide some evidence of this. In my personal experience, it's actually the exact opposite. I grew up with strict discipline strictly enforced, as per my posts. I also grew up with friends from wide ranging backgrounds - and it's almost exclusively the ones who had no discipline (in any form) growing up that are the ones with little or no respect for authority.
Mark
Without a doubt, smacking a child WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE is showing love and respect. A childs behaviour traits and character are formed by the time they are 3 or 4. After that age, you can shut the gate as the dye is cast and a child who has not the concept of 'cause and affect' will be the child who throws tantrums in supermarkets because s/he doesnt get what they want. They will be the children more likely to be prescribed Ritalin for 'behaviour' problems at a later stage. They will be the child who's parents blame a 'medical' condition on the childs bad behaviour.
Why is it that a lioness will clip her cub around the ear when it does wrong? Its because her youngster cant be 'reasoned' with at that age but the cub {after a smack} does get the message about cause and affect.
Why does the lioness want to teach her cub cause and affect? because without that knowledge, the cub wont last long when out in the world.
A lot of the anti social kids 'roaming the streets' havent learnt about cause and affect....in other words, they havent been taught from an early age, that they and they alone will be responsible for their actions. A kid who chooses to act without considering the consequences, is a kid that will grow up with antisocial behaviour and suffer the consequences of all that comes with that.
Scootygirl
I don't think human disciplin can be compared with animals given our vocabulary. You are comparing 'no smacking' with no disiplin - I feel no disciplin is a different discussion all together.
I don't smack my children and only very occasionally yell yet I have well behaved children. My 5 year is a caring child in his interactions with his friends - I have never had a problem with aggression at any age because I have taught him how to interact appropriately. I might add on the home front he has been pushing boundaries of late, and missing out on lots - however this is backed up with (age appropriate) discussions about respect and making other choices if he doesn't like the outcome - now when I give him a choice (stop or miss out on...) he usually stops - he is learing to control his behaviour, rather than stopping out of fear of being hit.
My two year old rarely engages in inapropriate behaviour - she is still stronlgy influenced be praise for appropriate behaviour. At the moment she loves to demonstrate he manners to me "thanks mum"