The more you have...the harder it is to find love?

@Virgo...a gathering for the young investors sound like a great idea! We already have one here in Melbourne...monthly gathering...but unfortunately I haven't yet met many young people as in below 30 there...I guess most men under 30 are spending their nights at bars whilst girls spend their money and shoes and clothes...sad reality!

@Darkage...how did you guess about the 30 age? My parents have been pushing me since I turned 23...the urgent need to be married by 25...guess that'll leave me less than a year Lol.
But I don't agree with them, I grew up in Australia and believe that you dont marry because of age and time running out etc...marry only when you are ready and when you find the right person! Funny how you say Asian to be married by 30...when infact most of us won't even look our age till we turn 50!
 
virgo said:
Didn't i read that someone got engaged to each other via this forum?
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Yeah, that was us :) and I know of at least three or four other couples who met via this forum as well.

As far as wealth and social interaction goes... I don't know that either has a lot to do with the other. Understandable that an individual hell-bent on saving may not survive long with a partner who buys new shoes every day, but common goals can be worked out together. Even Sam and I have very different ideas on how to create wealth - and how to spend it! - but we've established a balance that works for both of us.

I certainly don't choose my friends based on their wealth-building knowledge or aspirations. When dating, it was a similar theory; financial acumen wasn't even on the list. I've never really understood the concept of ditching old friends and only being around "like-minded" people. If anything, their differences make them more interesting and more enjoyable to be around.
 
shim said:
@Darkage...how did you guess about the 30 age? My parents have been pushing me since I turned 23...the urgent need to be married by 25...guess that'll leave me less than a year Lol.
But I don't agree with them, I grew up in Australia and believe that you dont marry because of age and time running out etc...marry only when you are ready and when you find the right person! Funny how you say Asian to be married by 30...when infact most of us won't even look our age till we turn 50!
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Im more of an egg.. yellow inside white outside.. have more asian friends than westerner friends, can speak some very bad mandarin/cantonese.. I have witness the pressures on my asian female friends regarding the marriage by 30. They think its the end of the world from there onwards. Not good to watch them worry so much.

I guess your parents are super traditional if they insist marriage by 25 :eek: , it doesnt help to have a constant reminder from your parents. Perhaps remind your parents not until the right person comes along.

One of my asian female friends shes 35 and not married.. when parents remind her about marriage and having kids.. she normally responds back with I dont have to get married, I can IVF.. that normally stops her parents harassing her for at least another 6 months :D

Anyways shouldnt feel pressure, just enjoy life as it comes while looking for that special one..
 
You have to remember (or know) that at 24 a female's brain is pretty much matured. It takes 5+ more years after that for the same thing to happen in a male. Hanging around 18 yr old males at a bar is like playing with kindergarten kids when you were a senior in high school.
 
Propertunity said:
You have to remember (or know) that at 24 a female's brain is pretty much matured. It takes 5+ more years after that for the same thing to happen in a male. Hanging around 18 yr old males at a bar is like playing with kindergarten kids when you were a senior in high school.
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Very very true.. Looking back, I had some some very shocking immature male friends at 24 yo.. They didnt wise up until just before 30..
 
@Darkage, I can still speak fluent mandarine...it is very useful when going overseas. I'd be stressed if I wasn't married by 35...but personally I would hope to be married by 28 and maybe first kid by 30. I actually wanted to be married by 25 too...thought it would have been the case with my last 5 year relationship...but unfortunately I've learnt u can't plan these things. I've planned everything else in life, and they have worked out well...but relationship, takes 2 to tango! My ex wasn't mentally mature to get married, it was silly of me to believed otherwise when I should really have let him go after dating for 1 year...instead it dragged on for 5!

@Propertunity...I think it takes at least another 10 years for male...in fact some men never grow up!
Most my friends at 30 are still mentally 18...living at home and not wanting to make changes...maybe it's the increase in property prices which lead to people getting married later?
 
The dog idea is not as silly as it sounds. I've got a toy poodle and the number of women I've met and started conversations with due to him (women who I suspect would not otherwise give me the time of day) is incredible.

There is a saying : "If he likes dogs he can't be all bad".

Failing that go on RSVP - I know a girl (37y.o) who has met and moved in with b/friend within 6 months of joining up and sending only 1 message!
 
Shim,

What are you talking about? The more money you have, the easier it should be to find love! I'll happily move in as a boyfriend if I can live rent-free and you pay for the groceries, Internet, etc. while I keep accumulating money and properties. I'll even uphold my job (and a second job) and play the "Yes, I want kids" card to your Mum & Dad... Deal?

In all seriousness, I hear you.. At 25, I feel like I'm at a bad age - too old to be drinking every weekend, but not quite at the age of my other mates who are ~30 and have families. A few more years of hard work and I should be on the way to being comfortable financially, but it would definitely be nice if I had someone with similar goals to share it with along the way as I'm not so sure there's going to be too many decent women left in their late 20s in a few years time.
 
So true about all the dog comments, if I were single I could have picked up 100 times over. Whenever I take my goofy golden retriever out and about I always get people approaching me that probably wouldn't have sans dog. He's good for meeting new people and is a great conversation starter, not the least bit on the shy side.

Shim, if you need an ice breaker you're welcome to borrow him!
 
You're 24? Yikes I imagined you as being 45, hammering sav blanc at lunchtime in between botox sessions, driving a black Audi, and having cankles that would make Shrek jealous

Tell you what, doesn't matter what age you are, you always feel old, look back a couple of years to another time when you thought you were old and say "man, I wish I was that young again!". I personally cried at my 26th birthday, but for some reason, the few since then havn't bothered me at all. In fact it gets funnier every year when a fresh batch of freshly 18yo girls hit on you and you say to them "you know, when I was in highschool...you were born" and watch the classic look on their faces :D

Anyway, perfect place to meet likeminded quality people - networking events. The best. Yeah sure it'll cost a little for the ticket, but theres nothing like meeting a bunch of people you dont know who are entreprenurially predisposed, who have taken the time to go to an event with the express purpose of making contacts so that they can cut deals and make money.

Shouldnt be too hard to find a sensible business minded attractive guy with a sense of humour at one of those.

This counts as matchmaking by the way. If it works, you owe me a fee
 
@Shim, I think with guys, theres a certain age (different with everyone) that they will become mentally prepared for marriage then finally seattle down with the one they are with, otherwise they keep on thinking of other possibilities with wondering eyes. But your right thats one aspect of life you can't really control. Anyways shouldn't be in a rush, make sure have you had enough time to recover from your last relationship so your ready to enter a new one with a clear head.

@Bon, being a houseman is a good grand dream! I don't think I will ever be that lucky.. shucks. :D:D:D
 
Shim, you sound like a lot of girls I've come across. Picky and full of self importance and unrealistict expectations in their 20's, and still single in their 30's. I eventually gave up on Western girls and went for a nice Asian girl. Perhaps you notice this trend in the city. Wonder why that is.

Hey, I was still going to Trance events and clubs at 32. Nothing wrong with enjoying your life.
 
@Bluestorm, I think you have to be some what picky at the start. I have never been picky in the past hence leading to where I am now. I think the trend is Asian girls prefer western men because they are not so traditional in their thinking and give us the freedom that Asian men will not. Of course there's nothing wrong with enjoying life, we all have to do it whilst we are young!

@Darkage, I think it's all timing for men...most people do not realise how good they have it until it's gone...I've also noticed relationship formed at university or high school rarely work out unless both partners have the same dreams and wanting to experience same things at different stages of life.

@Bon, I don't think you are going to find many women out there who is willing to have a men who wants to be a house husband. Even if you do find one, would you be willing to let her wear the pants in the relationship? :D


@Kasse, borrow your dog sound like a good idea! Maybe you could start a business and charge people for borrowing your dog :p I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who would want to walk and play with the dog and not having to feed or look after it!
 
bluestorm said:
Shim, you sound like a lot of girls I've come across. Picky and full of self importance and unrealistict expectations in their 20's, and still single in their 30's. I eventually gave up on Western girls and went for a nice Asian girl. Perhaps you notice this trend in the city. Wonder why that is.

Hey, I was still going to Trance events and clubs at 32. Nothing wrong with enjoying your life.
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Do I have to post some porn to let you know what a "shim" is?

I was sitting in a train in Bangkok with this beautiful Thai girl sitting opposite me.

"Don't get a hard on, Don't get a hard on." I was thinking to myself.

But she did.
 
@Shim, I think Bluestorm has a point trend could be the other way around as well. I find asian girls raised overseas have stronger traditional family values and willing to sacrifice more than focus on themselves, while western girls seemed a bit more self centered. Not all of them of course its just what I found more common.

@Bluestorm, whats a shim? :confused:
 
SERIOUSLY! What a joke! So what if he doesn't have a similar income as to you or a similar wealth! At the end of the day it's only money and materialistic CRAP! I think their are other things to look for! Personally for me that is the last thing i look for in a man!! What is the world coming too!
 
I didn't know that "shim" had that meaning!

@Nikolina...the aim of my post was to express my feelings...and I did not start this post to offend anybody. Money is what I'm not looking for in a man, in fact I was happier when I didn't have any...I do not want to find someone with money...I want to find someone who shares the same dreams and ambition to achieve similar goals in life. I've left the question mark at the end of the question because I just wanted to see what others opinions are towards this.
 
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