1. Did you stay at home or return to work?
2. How long were you out of the workforce?
3. Did you use childcare or family/friends
4. If you were out of the workforce for an extended period of time, were you easily employable when you chose to come back?
1. I became a stay-at-home Mum but also, in the early days, I did the odd day of casual work for my previous employer and a bit of temp work. Staying home for those years was great. Personally, I loved it. I still love it, although things are a bit more 'balanced' now as, although my youngest is only 3, I have returned to work just a couple of days per week in retail.
2. I was out of the 'permanent' workforce for about 10 years.
3. I never wanted to have to put my kids in a childcare centre or any other type of paid care. Sorry, 'to each their own', but I just don't like them. For the days when I work, my hubby adjusts his flexible work roster to be able to care for the kids - if this is not possible, I am lucky to have my parents live close by (although this is a last resort). Besides, paying for care would probably cost me more money than I'd make anyway
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4. If I'd wanted to return to the same kind of job that I had prior to having children, I would have had to update my skills. Last year, I applied for part-time jobs that involved the same kind of work that I'd been doing before I had children - on a few occassions I made the interview stage but didn't get the job as the successful applicants had 'more recent experience and references'. The reason given was always the same. It was understandable. I think it would have been impossible to return to the job that I'd been out of for so long without updating my skills and, possibly, volunteering my time free in order to get that 'recent' experience and references.
I then decided that a small role with as little stress, responsibility and training as possible would probably suit me and my family better. By working just a couple of days a week in my little retail job, I feel that I have regained some self-confidence and independence too - not so much 'financial' independence as my $350 weekly income is not really much in the scheme of things
, but in that I have a little piece of life of my own outside of the home. And there's still five days a week to enjoy with the kids...