The balance of power switches to the male as time goes on. A 20-25 y.o female can have who she wants but that changes over time. A 35 y.o. male doesn't want a 35 y.o female as that ties his options down to start having kids very soon. He wants a 25-30 y.o instead. Many women think at 35 that they will only accept a 8 or above- but if they wait a year or two they are now realistically looking at 6-7 and before long when they hit 40 they should take anything above a 4 or 5 if family/kids is a priority.
Sadly, many women have been deceived into thinking that they can have it all- a fulfilling career, enjoy the single life, meet mr right (with no baggage thank you very much) and settle down mid 30s and then kids at 35-38. The problem is many men don't want to fit to that timetable. Many of the good ones (men) have already been taken or don't want women in their mid 30s.
Many men still single at 40 are probably so for a reason so women need to accept men on the 2nd cycle- with kids and a divorce.
spot on, unfortunately feminism hasnt helped, along with gen Y's attitude, as gen y are now approaching or have reached 30,
they still believe that everything in the dating world should be handed to them on a platter combined with self entitlement, along with everything else in life. and now that the tables have turned against them, they arent happy and/or are very bitter about it.
its unfortunate to say that basically every woman ive been with and for my female relatives (who I have heaps of) you automatically get labelled immature, no good, useless, dont know anything about women if what they want is not what you want.
eg if you dont want kids you are labelled useless
if you dont want to buy a house with them, then you arent mature enough
if you dont want that payrise so she can have more money to spend on herself, then you arent good enough
etc. etc. etc.
unfortuantely, many of the women I meet (unfortuantely not doctors or lawyers or dentists, maybe I should look elsewhere) are stone broke and proud of it, they've have spent all their 20s in their crappy job on make up, clothes, while getting men to pay for their drinks. Its almost like its a battle scar to them, but yet they are very interested in my assets and what Ive been doing in my 20s and 30s in terms of a financial plan
yet if I mention that I was broke, then im automatically labelled as "not worth the oxygen".