I don't mind admitting I wouldn't look twice at a guy who had no assets (well maybe if he was hot - but he wouldn't get a third look ). It's not that I'm shallow, I'm building myself equity so I can live a comfortable life. Even if I found a guy with nothing and was prepared to sign a prenup I wouldn't be interested. I don't think love itself is a solid enough foundation for a long term relationship, and if a guy is going to waste all his money and has no direction or goals for his future then that's not someone I want to spend my life with. It's not about him not having money, but what it represents in his way of thinking, and it's not something I could or would want to live with.
P.S. Goodluck tomorrow Steveadl, hope it all goes well.
See I agree with you and would take the same course of action. If my GF/wife was a big money spender and had no control of her career or had no plans for her short term and long term future, then I would not consider her for a long term relationship as it would only drain me financially and emotionally. Love is a nice word but "loving" is easy, doing things in the "background" (caring for each other, helping with money, trusting each other, doing nice things for each other and etc) is harder.
Its very easy to say "I love you" everyday...