Kathryn - no one is saying feel sorry, people are just saying not to be so judgemental as we do not know the backgrounds to each situation. Of course there are plenty of people out there who waste every opportunity in front of them and deserve to be in a bad financial situation. However there are also people who may be a victim of circumstance.
Quite right.
I remember living with a previous partner many years ago; we'd bought a house together, earning good crust. She had a Gubbmint job - guaranteed for life basically.
My job disappeared when the Golf Club I worked at went broke and my contract disappeared - whole business gone and me left holding a load of stock - some not paid for either....Club told no-one of impending doom until too late to jump ship.
Fast forward a few months and we were almost broke - literally not going to be able to buy any groceries AT ALL until she got paid next week.
You won't believe it, but we received at this time a credit voucher for $25 in the mail from Safeway from a promotion she had been involved in some time earlier.
Absolute fluke of timing, but you cannot imagine how rapt we were to see that $25 - like winning Tattslotto.
Victims of circumstance? Maybe.
I put it down to us being too leveraged and not allowing for a life change that would seriously impact the cashflow; ignorance at the time.
I find it interesting (but perhaps not surprising) that bayview is the one with the strongest opinion here when he himself has said that right now he has an empty IP that needs a couple of grand spent on it but he doesnt have the money to fix it up to rent.
Yes; surprising.
I can tell you the circumstances; it's a compounding of events that I don't mind discussing.
But it's not "a couple of grand" - it's $16k. I'm seriously thinking a doing a cash advance on the credit card to pay for the repairs. Fortunately the rent would be around $320 p/w, and it cost us $105k to buy, so the return is decent enough to knock the CC debt down quickly.
I wonder what his impression would be of himself if the topic was discussed?
Feel free.
I have been criticised plenty on this forum; I can dish it out and take it too, otherwise I'd have folded the tent a few years ago and gone home.
We know from his posts that this situation is due to the business having some tough times and not that he has been blowing it on the pokies etc which proves my point. A bit of empathy and not jumping to conclusions can go a long way imo.
Most folk do it readily....at first.
But, as you get older and life throws situations at you; you begin to read between the lines and see what goes on without a lot of damning evidence needed to prove the theory.
Yes; we generalise, but...
A bit like a cop who has been on the beat for 1 month, versus a cop who has been on the beat for 30 years. The old bloke just
knows...not saying I do; but I've been on the planet and around a hell of a lot and kicked in the teeth a lot compared to a few of the bleeding heart brigade; hence my views.
You may think them strong - or wrong - I just say what I reckon; based on the above.