I thought some of you strong / tough minded people may be able to share how you 'get over' things.
A friend of mine had a high risk pregnancy. She had a meeting with the boss to discuss when she would finish work. Her boss suggested that if financially they could cope that she leave asap and use the time before baby comes to rest. Finding her current role too physical she took the well-meaning advice and left 3 weeks later. Her employer paid her mat leave straight away instead of waiting until baby arrived.
After the fact she discovered that she had a third option written in the EBA but not exercised by her employer. Her workplace agreement said that they had to put her in a different role until due to go on mat leave. This equated to 4mths pay or 12000 after tax, plus super, plus that time would have contributed to long service leave - then she would have gone on mat leave. (The alternative roles were equal and not difficult to interchange so she still would have been a productive employee)
She feels betrayed by her employer and this eats at her as she has returned to work and causes her anxiety. She asked how me how to get past this 'block' in her head, but I don't know how to help. She explained it to me as like having to see a partner who cheated on you everyday. Some days you forget but in other moments it stings.
Any psychologists on here?
A friend of mine had a high risk pregnancy. She had a meeting with the boss to discuss when she would finish work. Her boss suggested that if financially they could cope that she leave asap and use the time before baby comes to rest. Finding her current role too physical she took the well-meaning advice and left 3 weeks later. Her employer paid her mat leave straight away instead of waiting until baby arrived.
After the fact she discovered that she had a third option written in the EBA but not exercised by her employer. Her workplace agreement said that they had to put her in a different role until due to go on mat leave. This equated to 4mths pay or 12000 after tax, plus super, plus that time would have contributed to long service leave - then she would have gone on mat leave. (The alternative roles were equal and not difficult to interchange so she still would have been a productive employee)
She feels betrayed by her employer and this eats at her as she has returned to work and causes her anxiety. She asked how me how to get past this 'block' in her head, but I don't know how to help. She explained it to me as like having to see a partner who cheated on you everyday. Some days you forget but in other moments it stings.
Any psychologists on here?