She did have sick pay but not 4mths worth. Another employee a short time later same situation same type of high risk pregnancy was given a different role and was able to stay until just before due.
She knows that the situation can't be changed and she chose to finish early and she should have read through the EBA. It is the 'getting over it' that she is struggling with.
Does anyone have any strategies to help?
- As knowing/ being told to 'get over it' and finding a way to get past it are different.
One friend psychologist suggested it this way, "You cannot live in the past, in the past moment. If you chose to do so you will be stuck there, so the choice is to either be stuck there or to move on...".
If you dwell on the problem, you will only think of the problem whereas if you dwell on the future you will look for a solution, right (if you need one)?
Perhaps, she can relate to past boyfriends or other situations, where she can either dwell why it didn't work out and then eventually move on, otherwise she will still be thinking of that old boyfriend or the problem and be stuck there!
I also saw once an episode on Opera where a couple lost 3 children, at very young ages, in a car accident (a truck just smashed to the back of the car - due to poor road visibility). The same question was posed, and the therapy was lots of communication, perhaps spending few minutes a day on the problem, and then realising it was out of their control, hence moving on.
The solution was a birth to triplets (exact match, cannot remember but I think 2 girls 1 boy). What a miracle, right!
Personally, when I think of a solution I always will try to answer this question, what would have been worse, when would I feel worse? Would your friend feel worse, if she had received the money and had complications, or her current situation? I know, I would feel worse if anything would have happened to my child (to a human being) rather than losing money (material thing).
I hope that helps!