Not sure whether it's confidence, but a judgemental thing as I judge people sitting by themselves in the club or pub.
The secret here is not to care what some stranger thinks.
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Not sure whether it's confidence, but a judgemental thing as I judge people sitting by themselves in the club or pub.
random, I don't know where you live, but if it's in/near St Kilda, there's a barber on Barkly Street, just off the corner of Barkly and Acland, on the Coles side of the road. There are usually a few people working there, but the guy you want is David. He's the best!
This is a proper barber shop by the way, not some hipster jerk off establishment where 'men' (cough) give you some poncy hair style and put gel or some other girl crap in your hair like a girl.
The dude who runs Hawleywoods at Newtown is great. It is a brilliant concept which he has got the licence for in Oz. There's nothing like getting a shave with a full lather & a cut throat razor.
OP obviously has a self confidence issue.
Exactly what is the reason that stops you from going in alone?
Identify it, put it aside and stride in to get what you want, that nice cold frothy beer, have a quick chat to the barperson (see I can be PC) then the person near you, or even the girl over yonder. Soon you'll be a regular.
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Haha ,is that how it's done eh.
Nope actually l can hold my own just about anywhere and have all my life. You probably wouldn't believe some of the crap l've done actually that l can promise you , many will only ever dream, like lived all over the country - All quiet these days though
But eh , that's still not a bad way to look at it though fence
l'm a very social person on the right day when l get fired up and l've done some serious partying over the years.
But l've never been able to walk into a pub on my own if l don't know anyone inside . It's just something that doesn't come easy to me .
Friends and stuff , no problemo l'll probably be the last one standing but on my own, knowing no one !
Can you do that type of thing ?
When l was traveling l could easily just walk into a pub somewhere solo, but traveling's different. Nothing matters when your traveling .
Talking just pubs in your areas or there abouts , home turf type thing but knowing no one ..
My brother does, he'll just walk in, anywhere, any time, day or night. Doesn't matter what type of pub or crowd. Die hard locals or full of partying .
l can do or go almost anything anywhere on my own but walking into a pub , total block !
L
Becoming aware of how you feel about certain situations and not letting it bother you is perhaps the greatest tool to develop
Really , that's it l'm there. l miss that after all these salons or whatever the hell you end up in and crap all these years.
l'm on the Great Ocean Rd but l often drop into my sisters down in St kilda .
Walking into a pub and being concerned about what others think? Really?
I think you need to challenge your mind a bit more, so that it doesn't focus on such minor details.
Blacky
Very true.
I freedive. People often ask about the physical side of the sport, when in actual fact overcoming the mind is far more challenging.
Overcome the mind, and you can control your body in ways many people can't imagine (or believe).
Walking into a pub and being concerned about what others think? Really?
I think you need to challenge your mind a bit more, so that it doesn't focus on such minor details.
Blacky
This also applies to our investing plight.
After looking at "it" and weighing the + and - steel yourself and press the button and go with full confidence and purpose.
I love doing stuff I once thought impossible.
Dude! Next time you're in town, hit me up, we'll grab a beer.
Dude! Next time you're in town, hit me up, we'll grab a beer.
I don't get it?
Do you walk into a supermarket on your own?
Do you walk in to a coffee shop on your own?
What about a public bathroom?
Whats the difference.
Having a drink in a pub or a bar is so much more a social thing, and if I see someone drinking alone, I would wonder if they don't have friends whereas seeing someone alone in a coffee shop I have a completely different thought process. I would think "she is waiting for an appointment, or on her way to do the groceries".
I think there is a huge difference between going into a pub or a bar on my own and going into a supermarket, coffee shop or public bathroom.
Each of those things has a purpose. You are busy shopping, putting things in the trolley, and supermarket shopping is not something that friends do together generally (plenty of couples shop together, but rarely do friends grocery shop together in my experience).
I have no issue entering a coffee shop on my own but would generally read a magazine or my phone whilst having a coffee. I would never feel like a "freddy no friends" in a coffee shop on my own.
Public bathroom is also a place to go with a purpose.
Having a drink in a pub or a bar is so much more a social thing, and if I see someone drinking alone, I would wonder if they don't have friends whereas seeing someone alone in a coffee shop I have a completely different thought process. I would think "she is waiting for an appointment, or on her way to do the groceries".
I would not head to a coffee shop on my own, but would feel comfortable having a coffee on my own, whereas having a drink in a pub or club is something I'd never do on my own. I'd feel like a "freddy no friends".
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But why should you care whether that person has no friends or not?
And how can you make such an ssumption without knowing the person?
I didn't say I cared if they had friends but that is the assumption I jump to. And "how can I make such an assumption without knowing the person?" Well, that happens every day, everywhere, by most people, and often wrong.
I personally dont care what people think because they mostly get it wrong, and even if they get it right, who gives a brass razzoo? None of their business!
I'd like to hear of the ramifications this person may receive upon entering a bar alone? Whats gonna happen?
Ditto. As a woman I wouldn't go into a bar on my own, but if others wanted to do it I wouldn't think anything of it.
I'd like to hear of the ramifications this person may receive upon entering a bar alone? Whats gonna happen?