I think the issue is that you are both in very different stages in your lives, with different goals and priorities. I don't think either of you are being unreasonable in your wants or priorities, they are just different.
You are still looking for financial goals. She is looking to build a home, a marriage and a family. It is nesting. And it won't stop once you get married, because she will then be looking at children - and children can be expensive. I think it's only going to cause you lots more problems from here on in if you do come up with a way to communicate and compromise on these issues. I seriously recommend both of you going and doing some premartial counselling, specifically looking at financial compatibility.
I think the best thing you can do is sit down with her and work out what your one year goal is, your five year goal and your tend year goals. And then you need to decide on a budget that can accommodate your desire to invest, and her desire to nest and have a family. It may be you put aside half of the money earmarked for investment, and the other half for those things she feels is important. It will mean you cannot proceed at the pace you are wanting. But you will still proceed. And it means that she cannot have everything straight away, but she can still have some, and she van prioritise those particular things that are most important to her.
You are still looking for financial goals. She is looking to build a home, a marriage and a family. It is nesting. And it won't stop once you get married, because she will then be looking at children - and children can be expensive. I think it's only going to cause you lots more problems from here on in if you do come up with a way to communicate and compromise on these issues. I seriously recommend both of you going and doing some premartial counselling, specifically looking at financial compatibility.
I think the best thing you can do is sit down with her and work out what your one year goal is, your five year goal and your tend year goals. And then you need to decide on a budget that can accommodate your desire to invest, and her desire to nest and have a family. It may be you put aside half of the money earmarked for investment, and the other half for those things she feels is important. It will mean you cannot proceed at the pace you are wanting. But you will still proceed. And it means that she cannot have everything straight away, but she can still have some, and she van prioritise those particular things that are most important to her.