lizzie said:i envy those of you who have a supportive hubby. my hubby reckons he's supportive, but all i seem to get from him is criticism. he sees this as being constructive, but it is very demoralising when he tells me he's not comfortable with a particular purchase, but cannot/won't say why. how can i answer or ally or discuss with him if there is nothing tangible that is bothering him? if only he said "i am not comfortable because .... and here are some other options ... ". that would be constructive, and i have told him this but seems to make no difference.
he has read jan somers, rich dad poor dad and been to a john burley night session with me.
after another "discussion" the other night about the trusts (he doesn't fully understand them despite reading trust magic) and the latest puchase i wish for us to make that he is against he blurted out that he tells his mates how proud he is of what i do. well - that was the first time i had heard him say that and it meant nothing coming in the middle of arguement.
he's a very intelligent man but his brain is just not wired for the abstract. and he's very happy to spend the profits. i jsut wish he would either be supportive or get out of the way ....
my rant for the day.
Hi Lizzie,
Men's brains are wired differently (not better, not worse - just different).
Have a read of Alan and Barbara Pease's "Why Men Lia and Women Cry". It's fascinating.
http://www.dymocks.com.au/ContentDynamic/Full_Details.asp?ISBN=0957810873
Cheers,
The Y-man