About men and women

[trey]

{edit: this thread split from this one: What your wife won't let you buy...?}

Unfortunately not.. women become dominating monsters after marriage.
I thank god every day I never got married (came close once). And I?m not even religious.
Have kids though which is good, kids but no nagging wife.

i agree with dex. the man is the boss of the house and should be allowed what he wants

 

[MightyWill]

On the top of my list is a swim spa... but noooooo apparently that's a stupid idea, as if it's somehow possible for me to have a stupid idea!!!

Does anyone else have something on their wish list that they aren't allowed to buy due to the final word from the boss?

You should be the boss mate...

 

[neK]

You should be the boss mate...

Clearly you're not married

 

[Perp]

Clearly you're not married

Or in the 21st century.

 

[topcropper]

http://therationalmale.com/2012/05/30/the-abdication-imperative/

What is completely unsurprising to me is the sheer number of manlets (both here on the forum and out in the real world as well) who openly and proudly admit they are married to a surrogate mother.

Ha ha, and it's completely unsurprising to me and a number of us on the forum as to why you are single mate!


I'm happy to have to ask the wife if I can have something. It's a partnership, and one that needs to be fair.

I've got heaps more toys than she has, 3 motorbikes, a skiboat, numerous kayaks and canoes, guns and camping gear. I go away on numerous boys dirtbike weekends, or else camping, hunting, fishing and canoeing trips where all we do is sware every second word, tell dirty jokes and drink grog all day, just blokes doing what blokes do. She is generally at home looking after 3 kids. I ask her if she wants to go away with the girls but generally she doesn't want to. I don't miss out mate. I get a far better deal than she does, but she's happy and so am I. And so I respect what I get, so she gets a say in what I can buy and do.

All pretty simple stuff and nothing to do with being a pansie mate.


See ya's.

 

[Mr. Fabulous]

Ha ha, and it's completely unsurprising to me and a number of us on the forum as to why you are single mate!

Just because I'm not married doesn't mean I don't do well with women. If you feel the need to ask 'the boss' for permission to do anything, that's your choice to make TC.

It's not surprising to me why women initiate the majority of divorces.

 

[Rixter]

It's not surprising to me why women initiate the majority of divorces.

Interesting...According to what factually documented source?

 

[topcropper]

Just because I'm not married doesn't mean I don't do well with women.

Do they hang around for long?


See ya's.

 

[topcropper]

If you feel the need to ask 'the boss' for permission to do anything, that's your choice to make TC.

It's not surprising to me why women initiate the majority of divorces.

I'd avoid getting married if I was you. It's highly unlikely you'd ever last very long with any woman. I've been reading your anti women posts on here for years.

I do feel the need to ask permission thanks. I don't see how a marriage would work otherwise?


See ya's.

 

[MightyWill]

Just because I'm not married doesn't mean I don't do well with women. If you feel the need to ask 'the boss' for permission to do anything, that's your choice to make TC.

It's not surprising to me why women initiate the majority of divorces.

Agree, I call the shots and my partner gives me her input and then I make the final call.

I guess in all fairness, it also depends what cultural background you grew up in. Some cultures, the women want a man in charge, decision maker and a confident man.

The typical geeky Australian family is all 50/50 or more towards the female being dominant and the man agreeing. They type that wouldn't shout out loud in public and take the law in their own hands type of family. The Ned Flanders is the example I'm thinking of.

I know this guy at work who came in one morning and told me he got a haircut. I said, doesn?t look cut. He said his wife doesn't like it short. I'm like, who is the man? Your wives controls your hair? Everyone laughed.

Every family is different despite what I said above.

 

[wylie]

The typical geeky Australian family is all 50/50 or more towards the female being dominant and the man agreeing.

I don't know anyone well who doesn't have a fairly equal relationship between husband and wife. Perhaps it comes down to what sort of relationship you modelled yourself on.

I know my husband's father was very much the man of the house, in fact, he was an out and out bully to his children and his wife. Back then (50s) wives had to just put up with it. Most couldn't walk out. Most couldn't get a job. Thankfully my husband is a man who would step in to help anybody out, and didn't follow the caveman behaviour that was modelled to him all his growing years. He did the opposite, thank goodness.

I know many men would have modelled that behaviour. If he stood up to his father to defend her or himself, he was abused himself. He hated seeing his father bully and boss his mother around and he had very little respect for his father.

You can be a man without being a bossy thug.

 

[TMNT]

I like my womeb dominant
Like really dominat!!!!
But I'm no soft pushover either

It's managing these clashing personalities that's my biggest hurdle
If I can overcome, we have the best relationship

 

[Mr. Fabulous]

Some cultures, the women want a man in charge, decision maker and a confident man.

Will, all women want this. But very few will openly admit it.

 

[Mr. Fabulous]

Interesting...According to what factually documented source?

US:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/homo-consumericus/201311/do-men-or-women-file-divorce-more-often

http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052970203753704577255230471480276

http://www.menshealthaustralia.net/content/why-do-women-initiate-divorce-usa.html

Australia:

http://www.aifs.gov.au/institute/pubs/diversity/15divorce.pdf (see graph on bottom right on page 17)

http://www.sexualhealthaustralia.com.au/page/interesting_stats1.html

http://www.abc.net.au/local/stories/2013/05/27/3768051.htm

England:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...-marriage-middle-age-freedom--loneliness.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mo...e-Goodbye-darling-youre-just-too-dull....html

Not to mention all the books and movies and television made for the hard of thinking that romanticises divorce for women. Think 'Eat, Pray, Love', Stella Got Her Groove Back, Oprah and Dr. Phil.

There's plenty more out there - just google 'women initiate the majority of divorces'.

Then there's the usual women attempting to sabotage each other as well: http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2010/11/02/the-whispers/

To quell the predictable 'Oh, that guy is just a misogynist loser who still lives with his mummy and can't get laid' posts, Dalrock is a long term married Christian conservative. I don't read his blog, but this post was linked to from another, secular blog I do read called The Rational Male, authored by another guy who has been married for 17 years to the same woman whose views are quite similar to my own.

Redwing, the irony is that, post divorce, men are far more likely to get remarried than women.

 

[skater]

Will, all women want this. But very few will openly admit it.

You have absolutely NO IDEA what women want.

 

[geoffw]

One big reason more women initiate divorces is because of men who treat women is if they know what women want.

Personally I prefer to treat women as individual people rather than as a single group with one defining characteristic.

 

[keithj]

....the irony is that, post divorce, men are far more likely to get remarried than women.

Who do these men get married to ?

 

[skater]

One big reason more women initiate divorces is because of men who treat women is if they know what women want.

Personally I prefer to treat women as individual people rather than as a single group with one defining characteristic.

Yep!

I certainly would not stay married to a someone who thought themselves fabulous, and that their woman was inferior.

 

[pursefattener]

I remember reading somewhere that when a man goes through a divorce his life expectancy will go down but for a woman it can actually go up !

No wonder a woman may initiate divorce more so than a man .

Many of my friends and just people I know are going through the process . It's terrible to see and sad when it poisons their soul with bitterness as so often seems the way .

 

[Macca]

Most successful marriages in our group are based on an arrangement where they discuss things and day to day stuff is decided by the woman and the big stuff by the man.

I think most women of Our generation prefer the man to make the tough calls but this could be different in the X,Y and ?? generations.

Usually if one feels strongly about something then the other will let it go because they enjoy seeing the person they love happy.

We each have some spare cash to buy whatever we feel like, when we feel like it, which would cover anything up to $1k without any fuss.

Seems to work for us and others